Chit Chat Grwm Ft Rpghair | Healthy Boundaries, Confidence And Saying No Without Guilt

The way that life is easy, life is Breezy. If you just make it easy for yourself, stop making life come unnecessarily complicated. That'S the word. Hi guys welcome back. So another get ready with me. So I'm gon na start off by installing my wig and then we can move on to the makeup section. Okay, I feel, like my skin, looks really good today on camera, but guys I'm actually breaking out, and it's really upsetting - and I don't know what's going on. I don't know if I'm reacting to something or maybe listen - I don't know, but I'm breaking out. I actually really like how this wig is looking, I feel, like it looks extremely natural. It looks very, very natural and the hair is so soft and so silky the hairline looks really good as usual the weekend pre-blocked and it came pre-released. I don't know what direction I want this video to go in, but I do have a lot on my chest that I want to get off my chest. I feel like I've not really spoken to you guys in a very long time. I'Ve just been coming on here, posting my videos and going I've just finished, cutting off the lace, and this is how it looks, looks really good matches. My skin tone perfectly. I did apply some um Foundation. You know just to help this match my skin tone better, and it does look good so now I'm just going to go ahead and glue this down foreign. Thank you, foreign guys. This looks so good. Okay, so now that my hair's out of the way we're going to move on to my makeup - and I'm not really going to be speaking through every step that I do just because you know this - is like a chit chat type of video, I'm going to start Off by moisturizing my face, I've not applied any moisturizer on my skin. The only thing I've applied is the Nippon Fab. Hydrates hyaluronic fix guys this products right here is not even a joke like you need to go and get this guys. I don't even have a skincare routine, I literally just wash my face and moisturize my skin and I'm good to go, but ever since I got this and I've been using this - I am obsessed with this and you can see like I said, I'm breaking out like In some parts of my face, but just that to the side, look at how good my skin looks without any face. Moisturizer. Thank you, okay. So I've just done half of my brows off camera. You know just to um save some time. I'M gon na go ahead and Prime my face I'm using the YSL glow balm today, if you guys are wondering about what products I'm using at any point in this video, please just check the description bar below I'm going to list everything down there. Okay, so I think I'm going to start off with living your life for you and not trying to please anyone, because I feel like a lot of times. You have people that live life, trying to please people and just because they want validation from others. And for me, it's like. First of all, these people aren't paying your bills. They don't pay your rent, they're, not feeding you. So why do you feel you need to please anyone or get validation from anyone at the end of the day? You should want to do whatever makes you happy, and you know whatever's good, for you basically stop trying to please people stop trying to be a people. Please are, I feel like for me. I'Ve had to learn over the years that this is me you're, either going to love me or you're, not going to love me so, and I think that also comes from a place of confidence like how much confidence you have in yourself. So I feel like with me growing up. I was bullied because I came to the UK at the age of 10., so I'm gon na go ahead and apply my concealer. This is the um abh Magic Touch, concealer, I'm going to use two different shades, I'm going to use shade 21 and shade 12 to highlight so. Like I said, I came to the UK at the age of 10 and I lived up north in Doncaster, which is near Sheffield so obviously living up there um a young boy from my belkata. I was definitely 100 bullied because of my accent and everything just seemed very foreign to me, because obviously it's like what I'm used to compared to how things are over here is definitely 100 different and the kids. There were very mean to me because I had an accent: okay, I had an accent and I was bullied for the majority of my time, um in Doncaster, so I stayed in Doncaster from the age of 10. Up until I was 13, I would say yeah up until the age of 13 and I was bullied like from 10 to 13. Literally, I was bullied so then I moved to London at the age of 13 and went to a secondary school in in southeast London. That'S when I probably started finding myself and knowing who I am so yeah, I was bullied from the age of 10 to 13. that obviously brought down my confidence level me that when I was back at home, I had friends like you know, I was, I wouldn't Say I was the it girl, but I was I had friends and I was confident, but now it's like I'm living in a whole different country where it's like. I don't I'm trying to make friends, it's so hard for me to make friends, because I sound different. I look different, I don't know it was just weird so so I feel like going through. That has made me very confident. I can't lie to you guys, because now it's like there's nothing. Anyone can say to me that can faze me or move me, because what do you want to say to me that I haven't heard before what do you want to say to me that I don't already think or know about myself like Geo, trying to say especially One of the things that I was bullied about when I was younger was me having a big forehead and listening said. I embrace my forehead. Now I have a big forehead and what and literally I feel like that's the energy you need to have when it comes to every and anything like okay, I have a big forehead and what what do we do? Where do we go from here? Where do we actually go from here? I have a big forehead. Okay, what's next, what is next, at least this weekend? It sounds so funny, but having a big forehead was something that I was very insecure about. When I was younger. Listen, you guys are probably looking at me right now, thinking where is the forehead, but the wig is covering the forehead. Okay, the forehead. Is there it's there, but it's being covered. Another thing like I said I was bullied because of my accent and how I spoke and stuff like that, so I feel like I was trying to fit in and sound like how people over here speak. So I would speak really fast and then it's like you can barely hear what I'm saying my words are mumbling together, just because I'm trying to fit in so as I got older, I've obviously had to tell myself like okay, maybe someone just calm down when you're Speaking speak slowly, let people hear every word you're saying so they can actually understand what you're saying me being bullied when I was younger made me want to please people in a sense where, like, if someone was to ask me to do something and I'm maybe not Comfortable doing it - or maybe it's inconveniencing for me to do that thing for them I'll, probably I'll, probably go out of my way to do that thing just so, I feel accepted to an extent does that make sense, but now it's like, if you ask me something: No is no so this is where learning how to say no comes in because it's like you can't please everyone. You literally can't please everyone. You need to do what makes you happy live, live your life for you and be happy. If something doesn't make, you happy say no to it. It'S not by force me to say yes, no one's, putting a gun to your hair to say you have to do this thing. Otherwise, I'm gon na kill you no so um and I'm not saying you have to be bullied to be confident in life. No, that's not what I'm saying, but I'm just saying that did help me to become confident, because now it's like, I believe in myself and there's nothing. Anyone can tell me that can make me feel some type of way and I feel like that's where obviously, learning to create boundaries comes in as well, because if you say yes to everything and every and anyone so who are you? And what do you stand for? Like what do you actually stand for so I feel like for me, I've had to learn to say no to things that don't it please me and things that aren't working for me. If you don't like me, because I've said no, I can't do something for you. Baby girl, the doors over there and you can leave like it's actually not by force life - is really nothing in this life is by force. Okay, you have a choice to say yes or no so live for yourself and don't try and please people do whatever makes you happy. If you want to get up today and say you want to move to a different country. If that's going to make you happy, do it? Okay literally, do it. But the next point I want to talk about is invested in yourself, so by the way guys I absolutely love um, the concealer from abh they're, so full coverage they're, very creamy they're. Just so so so nice, like honestly, they blend out so good yeah, I feel like everyone, should definitely invest in yourself. So if you feel like you want to make more money, how do you make more money? You can make more money by going online and just picking up different skills. Like you know, you can educate yourself, there's more, listen, there's money to be made out there and there's so much knowledge out there. But it's not going to come to you unless you actually. You know go out of your way to to like read books and take what's the word, take classes and courses and stuff like that, you know so: there's nothing wrong, invest in yourself. Investing in yourself is like see it as like: you're doing it, for you you're doing it for yourself, okay, and if you don't know how to start a business. There'S courses online, there's YouTube videos. That is what you call literally investing in yourself. Self-Love is also a way of investing in yourself, taking time out and just spending time with yourself getting to know who you are. That'S also a way of investing in yourself, because I feel like a lot of times. We spend time pouring into people depending on the type of person. You are majority of the time. My friends come to me for advice: okay, not like that, can be draining because I love the fact that they even feel like they can come to me and ask me about certain things, but I feel, like you know, sometimes you can get so carried away. Investing and pouring into other people that you forget to take time out for yourself and which is actually like, just breathe and just deal with you, like the person who's in front of you right now, which is obviously yourself and just listen, spend time with yourself. Take yourself out on dates. What else is there to do? Go to the cinema by yourself go to Nando's by yourself. You get what I'm trying to say like just spend time with yourself get to know who you are what you like, what you don't like. Read a book dress up. Do your makeup look good for yourself. So the next thing I'm going to speak about is creating boundaries for yourself, especially when it comes to friends like guys, you need to learn how to create boundaries, because not everyone is your friend and you need to start knowing that not everyone that you're friendly with Is who you call a friend, you have different friends for different things. Some friends are there to listen to you. Some friends will come to you when they have problems. Some some friends you go to when you have problems. You have that friend that obviously you know that, okay, if you need to go to a party, you know that friend that okay, this is a friend for me to call, because I'm definitely going to have a good time. Okay, you have different frames for different things, and you have people that you obviously know, but just because you know them and you've been around them doesn't mean they're, your friends I'll, give you guys an example. So I don't know if you guys have seen the Real Housewives of Lagos. So there's obviously two ladies on there and that's where I'm gon na get the example from basically there's show my good hair and there's. What'S that lady's name, I don't Linda it's not Linda. Is it listen, there's still my good hand there's another lady on there. I don't I'm not really good with names and um. I remember, I think, the first time they were sat together on the show. This lady was saying that oh yeah, you know me and chioma are friends and chioma was like, I wouldn't say we're friends like you know, you're a good customer of mine. You come to me, you buy hair from me, but that doesn't necessarily mean we're friends like you know. I know you and we're we're cool, but it doesn't mean we're friends and I feel like a lot of times. That'S the mistake that we tend to make it's like. Oh because you know this person or you've been around them you're, so quick to call call them your friends and it's like no. We tend to throw around the word friend very Loosely, and for me it's like no, like guys when I tell you the experience that I have had in the last a year or so has just opened my eyes to. Let me realize that. Okay, some people that you hold in higher regards don't belong there, because it's like you know they literally let you down and they let you know that okay, you've put me up here. I didn't ask for you to put me on this pedestal, so I'm literally showing you who I am, and you just have to accept it, because now your hurt is based on the pedestal that you've placed them on. I feel, like my points, are very much all over the place in this video, but guys just bear with me. Okay. Another thing I want to say is that I feel like people need to learn to stop taking things too personal. Listen the day you stop taking things. Personal is the day that you are going to be so happy okay, because when, if you take everything that people do to you or say to you so personal to heart, you're hurting yourself for no reason. Okay, because for me it's like me, I just take. I take literally the way I live like it. I take life as it comes. I take life as it comes. Listen, if you like do this, if you like, do that and I'm just there like this, this is literally how I'm my life, like I'm, very much an easy going person like I could care less. If there was a person you could use to describe unbothered. That'S me that is me okay. I feel like nothing. I'M not gon na sit here and act like um, brick wall that nothing gets to me. Things definitely do get to me. I have my days where I'm in my feelings and I'm just thinking what the like, why is the world such a cruel place like? Why am I feeling like this? Why is this happening? Why is that happening? You know um, but more time, I'm just like. I can't come and kill myself if you think I'm this cool, if you think I'm that cool no problem. What do you want me to do like I'm not going to sit here and trying to find defend myself and try and convince you to believe that? I am this, so I am not that if you want to run with that narrative baby girl go ahead, listen feel free, I'm even finding out something new about myself that I didn't even know. Okay, so it's like okay. This is interesting. I'M trying to say it's like stop taking things. Personal people are going to do what they want to do say what they want to say. Let me tell you something as well: yeah only someone who is hurt would hurt somebody else. Only a miserable person would want to make somebody else feel the way they're feeling just think about this for a second. So, if you're having a great day, you're happy things are good in your life like what is the reason as to why you'd want to make somebody else feel miserable. That'S just what I've come to realize. So I feel like for me. I'Ve just learned to stop taking things personal and just taking things just leave life as like. Just live your life as like. Okay, you know what it's not that deep! It'S never that deep, like it's really really not that deep like so. Why am I gon na? Let this thing bother me so much like I go through my comments and I have people coming for me basically saying that I look like a 35 year old. I look like I'm this, it's very disrespectful. It is it's very disrespectful because it's like I'm 25 number. One but okay and um it's like do. I really look that old. I can understand people telling me that I don't act my age because I know I don't. I carry myself like I'm older and it's not something that I do on purpose. It'S just that's just who I am and that's just how I am, but you coming to tell me that I look 35, where I look 36 or I look. 32 is just a bit like okay, you're taking the piss. Now like you can even tell me. I look 28 I'll be like okay, fair enough, but 35 you're, just trying to piss me off. That'S what you're trying to do, but I'm just like okay funny, but not funny, okay, funny, but not funny, and I feel like another reason why you have stopped taking things personal and letting things get to. You is because, at the end of the day, you know who you are, you know your truth. No one can come and tell you. This is this: when it's not do you know I'm trying to say it's like, so why are you letting the um opinions of other people who aren't paying your bills, paying your rent, feeding you? Why are you letting that get to you? Why are you letting it get to you guys? This palette is everything like it's actually amazing, the pigment alone. You have to learn to start creating boundaries for yourself as well, whether that's romantic relationships or friendships or even with family members. Honestly guys, you have to learn to start creating boundaries, because when you make yourself too available for everyone, it becomes a problem, because when you then start saying no they're thinking why it becomes a problem as to why you're saying no. But then obviously you're saying no! Because it's like, I don't feel like doing that. I don't want to do that and if you can't accept it, then you should get going or go find some somebody else who is willing to do that for you, but as for me, I don't feel comfortable doing this. So, that's literally how you set boundaries if you're someone who everyone's used to you saying yes to them initially, when you do start saying no, they will find it very um. It will be very uncomfortable for some people, but just always remember to do whatever makes you happy and makes you comfortable, because at the end of the day, your own happiness comes first, because those people are going to go to their bed and they're going to sleep Peacefully, whilst you you're in your own bed worrying about a b or c, why are you doing that to yourself like babes? Listen, the way like life is easy. Life is Breezy. If you just make it easy for yourself, stop making life com unnecessarily complicated. That'S the word. You don't need to do that. Okay, if something doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. Okay, let me give you an example. A friend wants you to come out tomorrow. This friend, you really like this friend and you don't want to let them down, or maybe you've even agreed to go out with them, and then something comes up on your side and it's not like okay. What do I do? I'M sorry we're gon na have to let your friend down, because obviously you come first and - and I think one thing I've learned to do - is that let me flip the table, let's flip tables. Now, if my friend was in my position, what would my friend do? Would my friend come with me or would they let me down and that's how you have to see it? That'S literally how you have to see it because I feel like the world will live in everyone's literally about themselves and whatever they do is for them and what makes them happy. So, for me, it's like: why am I putting my own happiness in Jeopardy because I'm trying to please someone and make them happy? No, I'm! So! Sorry, if you don't want to be my friend anymore, it's not the end of the world. Like you know, it's really really that simple. It'S really that simple! So I'm gon na apply some liquid eyeliner, I'm gon na use the hida Beauty, um life liner, quick and easy in the shade very Brown. I want to use Brown just because I want. I don't want it too. Harsh I feel like black, is just very intense, so, okay, so I've got my lashes on. I don't really need to do this. This is fine, but I just want to show you guys what I did so I used the um Maybelline Fit Me matte and poreless powder in the shade 120 guys. I feel like the best way to have a Flawless for this on the eye is, after you set your um under eye with your setting powder, your translucent powder, going with a pressed powder. Trust me on this: go in with a pressed powder and a small brush and then just literally press and then apply, and this will give you such a Flawless and smooth under eye another powder. That'S really really good, for this is the um shallot Tilbury airbrush Flawless. Finish that powder amazing, but I want to get shade too, so I have shape three with me, but that's it's quite dark for me for my under eye anyway. So now I don't know if I'm the only one that feels like this. Sometimes I go for a phase where I don't want to wet my face by setting it. So what I do is I just um, I spray my beauty, blender and then I just use that to set my face. Basically, that's what I do just gon na blend that, in you know just to get rid of the harsh line, basically on the side, so yeah guys we're nearly done with this video um, I'm just gon na do my lips now another thing: I've learned as I've Gotten older, I would say, learning to speak, less and listen more guys. Listen. I was that kid that, before you say 10 words I already have 20 coming back at you like. I won't even let you get a word out literally. I feel like, as I'm going older, it's just like. Why am I stressing myself? I don't know - maybe I don't know if it's a thing where I just want everything about me to just be peaceful or I don't know you guys, but I feel, like speaking less and listening more has helped me so much because now it's like you actually hear What people have to say - and you pick up on things and you learn a lot more when you listen more speak, less, listen, more trust me and a lot of times as well, when maybe someone's coming at you sideways trust me silence is the ah listen or More that I think I'm paying someone like, listen, imagine imagine being so angry at someone and you're coming at them and they're. Just looking at you like, okay, that, okay, are you done? Let me know when you're done. Let me know when you're done, like just imagine how much that person is pained or imagine like blocking someone, whilst they're speaking it has the same effect. Trust me ah, so trust me guys like it's, not everything you need to react to it's it's true. It says not everything you need to react to if someone's coming at you sideways, just allow the new way to let them do what they want to do. Let them say what they want to say for your own peace of mind for your own sanity, when they're done speaking, they will shut up. Okay, listen trust me! Not! Every action deserves a reaction from you. Just try and protect your face. Try and protect your energy. Just listen, I don't know what I'll tell you guys, but trust me. It'S not worth it. It is not worth it. It'S not worth it at all. I'M gon na apply Aaron's a cosmetics in the shade la so because I don't want to um spray my face. I really don't want to feel I don't know. I just don't want to wet my face. I'M gon na spray, my beauty, blender, and then I apply that over my face guys. Let me know, I'm sure, I'm not the only person that feels like this, like sometimes I just don't want to feel anything wet on my face, like I don't know so the next thing I'm going to tell you guys. I feel like my next point is for the Ladies Single Ladies, especially, and I'm one of them okay, so this applies to me as well. Listen, I feel, like this whole mean girl. The thing is we, don't even do it on purpose. That'S the thing that we actually don't. Some of us just naturally have a resting face. Let'S be real like with me, I have a straight face majority all the time, so I've been told that I um I come across very intimidating and just unapproachable, and I'm just thinking, if only you guys actually knew the real vemi. I am so playful, but obviously I'm just a very reserved person. Obviously, if you guys were to meet me in person - and you said hi to me I'll definitely hug you like I'm a hugger, I would hug you I'd, be like oh, hey, babe. You know that type of vibe, but I feel like more time with guys like if you have a straight face major of the time it takes a guy with a lot of balls to actually walk up to you and be like what's up like do you know What I'm trying to say, I feel like you're, a type of lady, that you know you you're into makeup. You dress up you're, very Glam, you wear lashes, you do your hair. Naturally, you guys are going to find you intimidating, because they're going to see you and think Hmm who is this babe? That'S just that's looking very you know like. Should I go up to her? Should I not go up to her because I can go up to her now and then she's like what do you want, like you know that type of vibe like and obviously guys have a lot of Pride? So I get it, but I don't know like I just naturally have a resting face, and I I've been trying my best to change that recently, but so yeah guys I'm gon na wrap up this video, I'm just gon na finish, I'm just gon na style. My hair and then um I'll be done with the video guys. This is a 13 by six wig, so it goes all the way to the back. By the way you have a lot of parting space on this wig, I'm just going to apply some wax stick. I haven't used my character wax stick in so long because I've been using the crown Beauty, one guys. I love them both, but I think I love the crowned the crown DC. One Crown beauty is um. Wax stick does it for me. It does it for me guys this is the real deal. Let me tell you the difference between this one and the caracare. One character gets the job done, but I feel like if you mistakenly apply too much it becomes too waxy and too greasy. I don't know, and then your hair kind of sticks together, whereas with this one, a small amount goes a long way and it actually keeps your hair in place and it gets rid of the flyaways. So basically, it's almost like you've used a hairspray on your hair. That'S how this feels it just stays in place so yeah guys like I said this wig is from RPG hair and I just love working with this company, because the lace is really really good. The hair is also really really good and they're very, very affordable. So um, if you're a beginner and you want to you, know, start wearing wigs or if you're a student, and you need a really good wig, that's good quality and good lace. Then I would recommend this company 100 percent. Thank you. Thank you. This hair doesn't require much so they sent me 150 density, so the wig is like very much like an everyday natural type of wig, but even for 150 density. It'S not too. It'S not crazy thin. Do you get what I mean? This is like a it's. It'S thick enough for like everyday type of wig. I like that this wig doesn't really require for me to do too much to it. So the hair came straight anyway, because this is their. You know straight hair and the hair's really soft, so yeah guys I'm going to wrap up this video because I am more or less done so. I'M just gon na wrap it up by saying that just guys, honestly being confident will take you so far. So confidence is not something that you're born with. I feel like it's something that just kind of comes along the older you get because it's like you get older and then people's opinion just becomes less relevant in your life, because you realize that okay, it doesn't really hold weight like it doesn't really change anything like You get what I'm trying to say that doesn't affect you, so then it's like. Why should you allow people's opinion to affect how you feel or how you view yourself? You know, and I feel like if you're someone who's struggling with confidence babe you can, it will come, it will come, but you have to work on it to get what I mean. So you can start by wake up every morning. Look yourself at the moment or yourself I am beautiful. I am confident I am powerful because you are babe trust me. You are so, and I've not always been I've not always been this confident. I'Ve not always been this cute, should I say, like I had to glue up, I had to go through my own process. You know how a butterfly goes through the process of yeah. I had to go through. All of that trust me guys. I would upload my um before picture, but you guys would cuss me the out, so we're just gon na keep that away for now. So but um honestly guys. You need to be able to get yourself to the point where you walk into a room, and everyone turns their head like who is this babe? That'S how confident I need you guys to be, because trust me, you are beautiful. You are stunning you're gorgeous you're everything and you deserve nothing but the best, and that's how you need to view yourself every day when you wake up this morning, no one can bring you down. No one can make you feel less of who you are because you were created in God's image. Do you know what that means? Do you actually know what that means like come on so and if you have anyone who's trying to make, you feel less of yourself than you are it's literally, that is literally them just projecting how they view themselves on you, so they don't let that happen. Okay, if someone tells you you're, not beautiful, be like okay, I've heard. Thank you believe yourself. You know you're beautiful and no one can take that away from you, okay, so yeah! That'S where I'm gon na end this video. I hope you guys enjoyed this video. If you guys want to see more Chit Chat, videos like this do, let me know in the comment section down. Let me know what topic you'd like me to speak on, because I can't just come here and just be bladder in my mouth. So please, let me know what topics you guys would actually like me to speak on guys this wig, this hair is so soft and it looks so good, so yeah guys. That brings me to the end of this video. This is the finished. Look when it comes to my wigs. This is what the lace looks. Like looks really really good. So, like I said, this wig is from RPG hair, and this is a 13x6 HD silky straight wig. So this wig comes with a clean hairline and the length I have is 22. I'M gon na get up now, so you guys can see where the spirit is up to on me. So this is the 22 inch wig, as you can see, and this is 150 density wig. I feel like this. This is perfect, like an everyday, you know go-to wig or if you're um, if you're a student - and you just want something to just have as a nice wig, then I would definitely recommend um. I really like RPG hair, because they're lace so good, like guys, I'm going to zoom in so you guys can see. Look at how good this lace is. This is the HD Lace by the way guys and it comes with a clean hairline. Naturally, the majority of the work has been done, for you comes pre-plucks and it comes pre-bleached as well. So all you really need to do is just to you know, install the wig when you get the wig, basically so I'll make sure to list all the links that you guys need in the description bar below and I'll list all the products that I've used today Down below as well also, please don't forget to leave a comment. Let me know what you think and I'll see you guys in my next one bye,