3 Months Post-Op Vsg| Hair Loss| No Compliments

Hi everyone, I'm Angelique, also known as the light welcome to my channel. This is my three month. Post-Op video. I have two other videos up um documenting month, one and month two I hope y'all are doing great. I'M feeling great. You know. Everything in life is not great, but I'm feeling great as far as healing from the surgery within these three months, three months went. Super super duper fast um and I am down 51 pounds and unfortunately, the camera does put more weight on me. I feel, like my face, looks much Fuller on camera than it does in person or in photos um or it could just be the angle that I'm recording at, but I can definitely tell um in my face and my neck starting to look a little old to Me but I'm okay with my results, um my dietitian. I already saw her for my three-month um post-op appointment. I I met with my dietitian and I'm going to meet my doctor this week um, but she was saying that she feels I'm not losing enough weight um within these three months and I'm gon na say I'm okay with that, because I feel like it's going to Give my skin time to catch up to me losing weight to lose 51 pounds in three months. I feel like I'm all right with that, regardless, if it's surgery um, you know surgically done basically um, it would have been cool to have lost 60 pounds within these three months, but that's something I can definitely work on. My diet is still the same. You know she kept like harassing me going. Are you lying to me? Is there something that you're eating that you shouldn't be eating um? Are you drinking a lot and I'm like girl, I'm a grown woman. I don't need to lie to you. I'M I'm not getting points, you know, I'm not getting paid. I actually don't have to show up. The surgery is done. If I don't want to come to my appointments, I don't have to there's many patients that don't end up going to their appointments after their surgery. They get their surgery for the insurance and they out of there. I'M doing it because I care and I do want the help and I'm serious. You know I made a commitment to the surgery, so I would say this: no, I'm not lying um. I told her. I was honest with her that I have been eating rice. Sometimes I have been eating the wraps, the breading wrap to make a sandwich, not eating. You know with sliced bread or hero bread to make a sandwich, but I've been using like the wraps or the veggie wraps to make a sandwich which many people do um. So I was honest about that. I'M I'm not eating cookies and chips and ice cream and Candy none of that stuff. Yes, I've tried chips. I'Ve tried crackers um, but it's something I don't eat like on a daily basis. I'M still doing my protein shakes. You know for breakfast, I'm eating fruit, I'm like obsessed with watermelon right now. I love watermelon from time to time. I do indulge in smoothies. I love a papaya, a mango banana smoothie. That'S like my favorite. I get it from one of my favorite smoothie shops when I'm out and about um, but I don't do it too much because they said that you know fruits have a lot of sugar um, not eating. Fried chicken still eating like roasted chicken or taking the skin off the chicken or not eating chicken at all, even though you know it has protein, I've been um eating more fish and shrimp. Lately, um still eating veggies, I'm obsessed with spinach leaves I don't like the regular salads too much, but my body does digest it very well. I haven't been indulgent in kale, even though I love kale um broccoli eating a lot of broccoli and honestly this month. Three, I would say I had to force myself to eat. Excuse me. I had to force myself to eat, I don't know if it's because of summer or what's going on spiritually in the world, but I really haven't been wanting to like eat every day. Um I've been having like better experiences with going out to eat because my birthday was this week: um August 15th um. So I have been having you know, better experiences going out to eat, but I'm not gon na order, certain things just because whoever I'm with gay ordered something that I normally used to eat. I'M able to say no to people like there was people. Oh, let's order. This, let's share appetizer. Oh, let's share food. I'M like nah girl. I cannot eat what you eat. I got ta get this salmon and maybe the or Salad like you know. You have to be very Stern with people, because people some people, I haven't told them about. My surgery so and I'm not going to because it's none of their business and then there's some people who I have you know told you know um that I had surgery or whatever the case is, and I just feel like that is just best for my journey. Not to tell people and people shouldn't impress you into eating something anyway, like you have to have boundaries, you have to be able to say no, while you're out, you know order a kid's meal order, order a salad order, the salmon um don't order an appetizer. You know but they're, just like. Oh let's, let's like order a couple of appetizers and I'm like nah, I'm good, I might just order eight appetizer to eat and I'll have one drink. I have not been able um to have more than one drink or even finish. My alcoholic beverage, while I'm out now eating and I'm content um. So as far as like food and a dietitian saying that it was hilarious, um, the only thing I've been a bad girl with is that I have been dabbling in rice and the wraps pretty much. That'S the only thing I really can say that I really been dabbling in. I wanted to eat ice cream and it made my tummy hurt um, I'm close to I'm not supposed to even have ice cream. That has milk in it anyway. So it was the milk and the fact that there's sugar, I'm noticing that I'm still drinking my my zero calorie drinks. Okay, I ain't lying to you. I got one right here sitting here. I love vitamin waters. I like it's weird. I have like this thing where I go on: a hunt for vitamin waters and different flavors and zero sugar. So if you live in New York - and you know places they have like different flavor zero sugar vitamin waters, let me know because I'm on the hunt um, I still drink Gatorade, I drink alkaline water. I know the spring water tastes like crap. Oh my gosh spring water is disgusting to me now so I've been drinking alkaline water um. I tried Fried Chicken um actually recently and I end up peeling off the skin because it was just too much batter. So it's funny to me when I hear uh you know my dietitian crushing me, I'm like listen! Even if I wanted to eat certain things. I couldn't because it'll literally make me sick um and it doesn't taste the same so um. You know you go to try you go to go, eat, something or try something that you normally used to love you're, not gon na, like it you're not because you're not used to eating you know fried foods or greasy foods like I can kind of like now. Look at food and be like I'm not gon na. Do that, because it's going to hurt your stomach. I have not experienced in dumping syndrome, yet I'm in month, three now and I have not thrown up anything. I have not ran to the bathroom to sit on the toilet or anything like that. Thank God. So that's the portion about the food um yeah food, it's just not fooding, still um, it's weird like some days, it'll, taste, good and then there'll be other days where things just taste nasty. But in month three I I was going through a phase where I had to kind of force myself to eat um, and I noticed that in month three I just wanted to drink one liquid. It'S like, I can go all day with just a protein shake or a smoothie, and I wouldn't be hungry and the only way I knew that that wasn't gon na be enough for me is I started to get light-headed or feel drained and I needed to like. I needed solid food, but that's what I've been going through when it comes to month, three um: let's talk about my hair loss, so I spoke too soon in month. Two, I thought I didn't have any hair loss, but I am experiencing hair loss um, but it's mostly like the nape area. I guess that's what they call it or you know black ones or out edges. I'Ve never had any issues with my edges, so I had crochet locks in crochet, slash, faux Locs in um, and maybe it was too much tension on my scalp plus, you know losing the hair. So when I went to go take out those faux Locs and I went to go comb, my hair guys, it was like the hair was like coming off like butter, I'm a person that has a lot of hair um. This is a wig, though um, so I was so nervous because I won't be able to wear my faux Locs or my crochet styles for a while, which I love those Styles. You know it looks like dreadlocks for some of you who don't know what that is. Um, I'm gon na be able to do that because it'll be too much tension and I have the cornrow and I have to twist my hair with that hair, and I don't want that to break out my hair. But I'm gon na show you. I do have a wig on, but um you see like it's stemming like this. Peace was not that big, so I've been using, like my baby here to kind of camouflage it over here as well. It'S just been thinning and, like you can see like that bald spot. So when I go do a ponytail, you know you can kind of see it. I actually have to put like a little bit of makeup and it's just like uneven. Like you don't see like a clear, you know lining of hair um at first I was a little devastated, but I feel like I'll get over it. The hair will grow back. It is not as bad. I guess, I'm you know doubling up on the iron. In my multivitamin and it'll grow back, I have been wearing ponytails or I've been doing like what I call. These are called half wigs where I can blend my natural hair with it and kind of give my hair a break. I suggest don't put any tension hairstyles on your hair um and let it grow back um, but it hasn't been falling out like that uh. But it does make me a little insecure when I'm doing a ponytail and I can see like a bald spot there. But I've been taking like the makeup that I use on my eyebrows and I've been like putting it there. I might get a spray um just to spray there if I'm going to do a ponytail, but the makeup has been working a little bit in order to camouflage it. But I was really sad when I started to see my hair fall out, but I've experienced that before in 2016, when I had surgery on my uterus and I had lost all that blood, because I was bleeding for six months um and I had the anesthesia my Hair did fall out and I end up cutting it so believe it or not. It was worse with the uterus surgery than it is with this surgery. Okay, um. Do people notice my weight loss? No, so don't feel bad if you're, like two months in or three months in and nobody is noticing um you have to understand. It could be for multiple reasons why people aren't noticing your weight loss. So it's not that I've been looking for people to notice my weight loss, but even when I say like oh yeah, I lost 50 pounds like you did: uh really um. I think, because I one of the reasons why I think people don't notice your weight loss is because, if you're a person, who's been big, your whole life they're, just so they're fixated on you being big, now you're, just like a smaller version of being big. So the first maybe three or four months they may not see it um I see it in my face. I see it and that's what matters don't you know don't feel bad. If you don't get. Compliments like you lost your first 50 pounds and you don't get. Compliments compliment yourself and that's something that I've been on then there's going to be people who are haters, they see you lost the weight they see your face is slimming down your waist is slimming down. They notice it but they're not going to compliment you because people don't like change people. A lot of people are haters. You know they they're so used to you being one way: oh yeah, but now you're kind of you're going to be competition for them because you're you you're losing weight. You know they were happy that you being the fat, family, member or the fat friend and now they're noticing your progress, something about people, um, changing or progressing in life. Um elevating and life bothers people who aren't working on anything. So I think that's one of the main reasons: why is they see it? But they're not going to say anything because it makes them feel some kind of way that maybe there's something in their life that they're not working on um. So you have to be your biggest cheerleader, hopefully your spouse, or your lover is also your biggest cheerleader or your children, but other than outside of that don't worry about it. Another thing is people they, like you, fat, not like in a bad way, but they liked. You fat, they, like you, bigger, like they're, attracted to that you know, like I told one of my male friends um. He took me out for my birthday and I told him about the surgery. While we were out hanging out for my birthday - and I was just like - oh - I recently lost 50 pounds. He was like. Oh, oh, okay, like your face, does look a little smaller but um. You know I didn't want to say anything because a lot of times people don't want to say anything because I think, like you're, very sensitive about your weight, so they don't want to say like hey. Did you lose weight? When really you know, that's like a compliment in society um, but he never talks about my way. He is attracted to me and um always talks about how he likes my body, and he likes me big and whenever I would talk about losing weight, he'll be like no. No no, like you look good like and I'm like, is that about looking good about being healthy, so yeah um. He had a weird face guys. I did not expect that from him. Um his face was like Stern and he didn't smile. When I said I, you know, I did the surgery um, he was just he was like. Oh, why are you telling me now, like you, had the surgery in Maine it's August like? Why are you telling me now and I'm like, oh because you just asked me: why didn't I finish my food, so I didn't want him to think like I didn't like my food that he's paying for so I just like. Oh, let me tell him because he just kept saying to me like: oh, you barely touched your food and I'm like oh, I ate I ate, but he kept pressuring so you're gon na get that a lot um by the people who you didn't tell that you Had the surgery and like he just kept bench, he mentioned it like three times by the third time. I was kind of annoyed and I had a little. I was a little tipsy too, so I was just like. Oh let me just tell you I had. I had weight loss surgery in may. He was like what like. Why are you telling me now that was in May and I'm like? I don't have to tell you at all. I could have told you like next to me, I'm just telling you because you keep like asking me over and over again about my food. So now, when we go hang out, you know we were eating or drinking I'm probably only gon na have one drink. I'M probably gon na order, appetizer or you know, take the rest of my food home, and this is why, because I'm actually very full - and I cannot - I cannot stuff my stomach anymore unless you want me to throw up on this table. You know - and I was just like: oh yeah, I lost 50 pounds so far and I plan to lose maybe about 50, more 50 or 70 more pounds and he was just like like stuck. He looks so stuck guys. He I don't think he was feeling that at all um that ain't, my man, I'm not interested in him. I don't really care like what he thinks. It'Ll be great as a friend for him to support me, but he doesn't have to you know I'm supporting myself. Um but yeah he looks stuck and then he was like. Oh don't get too small. Now you see, I don't like to hear that if your friend just told you that they had weight loss surgery, they cannot control how much weight they're going to lose or how they're going to look um. You know I've heard people say they only lost 30 40 pounds with the surgery, and then there were others who lost 200 pounds with the surgery. You don't know how you're gon na look, you don't know how much weight you're going to lose or how your body is going to adjust to it. You know my body, I feel like it's slow. The pounds is not coming off like that. There'S other people, the pounds be coming off. It'S not coming off me like that um, which is a good, a good and bad thing um, but if I have to do a liquid diet in order to get some of this weight off, I'm willing to do that too. But saying to your friend who just expressed to you that they had a weight loss surgery and you tell them, don't lose too much now, like bro, I'm not sleeping with you. We'Re not dating we're. Just friends like don't worry about how much weight I'm gon na be losing off my body, you know and he's very skinny, and I don't ever say to him like you need to go to the gym. You need to be drinking some protein shakes bro because you're like 100 pounds and you're like 40, something you know. I don't say that to him. You know, but anyway, um you're going to get these slip comments. You'Re gon na get the non-support because that's what they're used to and, of course, in his mind's, probably thinking like damn yo, I'm really never gon na have a chance with this girl, she's gon na lose more weight and she's going to change, and you know that's Probably what was going on in his head, but I just view him, as I view him as a friend um, but I he just had this weird, like dead stern, look on his face, like he wasn't happy at all um. He might have said it like. Oh yeah, that's good! I'M happy for you, I'm happy you're happy, but he was not happy when I gave him that information, but F these people, man, it's about your health, your body and how you view yourself, um. Some of you will have to you're gon na. Have to let go your lovers too you're not going to be able to you know be with these individuals if they're not going to be supportive of a healthier lifestyle of a better version of you or a Slimmer version of you. I want to say better version, but you know it's because you slim it on me and you're better, but um people need to support that change. Um yeah, but no, I have not been getting any compliments from people who I'm close to or I know um there's been. You know a couple of friends like oh wow now you know I had a ponytail in my hair. I was rocking a ponytail for a while and they were like oh wow. I start I didn't see it before, but I see it now because you work in a ponytail and girl. Your chin is not like chinning like it used to and I'm you know. I think it's so funny, but uh yeah, so people will not compliment you as you think, and sometimes you're gon na be looking like. Oh, I wonder if I see this person that knows, I lost weight, they ain't gon na say nothing to you. A lot of people would try to hold back compliments or you know, motivate motivation, um just to hurt you. It sounds it's. I know we're not like that. I'M not like that, but it's sad like it's sad. I'M a person that notices weight, gain and weight loss on people like immediately when it doesn't matter. I I could have went a whole year without seeing you and I'm gon na notice it. You know some people like, oh, maybe because they always see you like. I don't always see my friends like I see my friends like every couple of months. You know so I really wouldn't and like the guy that I saw that said that he hadn't seen me since May so I don't see how he didn't notice the weight loss. But that's: okay! Don'T worry about it, because when you hit that 100 pound Mark what they gon na do the night, I think you lost the weight. He'S had 100 pounds so um. You know when I make my 100 pound mark and it's still not complimenting, then I know they were hating when I was at that 50. That 50 mark. Oh excuse me I'm spitting um, then I know that they were hating at the 50 Mark um, but yeah. Don'T let that make you feel some kind of way be your biggest cheerleader. Hopefully your husband or wife is your biggest cheerleader um your children and that's all that matters, but that's pretty much it for my three-month um post-op of vsg surgery. I still have no regrets. Um, my appetite is still weird. You know I'm dealing with the whole hair journey and trying to save my hair and that's pretty much it. I I really. I don't have any complaints um. I do feel like I need to like up my vitamins um now, I'm starting to deal with insomnia a little bit, I'm unable to sleep at night, but I don't know if that is due to the surgery or is something else going on with me um. Oh yes, my cycle is coming like every month now, it's on time, it's coming on time, but I'm experiencing um bad cramps, bad cramps. It'S not heavy um, but it ain't light either, but it's really the pain that is throwing me off, because I always have bad cramps, but it seems like it's increased ever since the surgery. I don't know what that's about uh. I think my hormones, I think my hormones are normalizing now, because I have PCOS by the way and that messes with your hormones is it hormonal imbalance um, but I think, as I'm losing weight, my hormones are balancing out. So I will say I feel more friskier than normal. That'S all I'm gon na say so prepare for that too, where you're going to be feeling more friskier and you're going to want to be more active as your hormones start to balance out. I think it's also because I'm gon na I'm turning 40 next year so with the weight loss, the hormones balancing out and the body going heavy up girl, you need to hurry up and have a baby um yeah. So it's OD, it's ridiculous! How I feel I need to get a husband ASAP, but yes, that's my three month post, I'm I'm so proud of you guys, I'm proud of myself and um. I still haven't been working out like I should, but I still do my walking I'm advised to do 30 minutes of walking. I do more than 30 minutes of walking a day and I go up to like the mall, maybe once or twice a week, and I walk them all for like a good three hours um. So I'm a walker, definitely and um yeah. I feel good. I definitely feel good. I have more energy, I feel energetic um. I feel happier yeah like I feel like the hormone and the hormone imbalance balancing out now. It'S I'm less Moody, I'm very much less Moody, now, um, just dropping just that. You know small 50 pounds. I do notice this a little bit, I'm starting to get a little bit more attention just from losing 50 pounds, meaning men in public and I'm like wow. That'S interesting, how I only lost 50 pounds. So I don't know if it's an energy thing or if it's the 50 pounds, but I'm noticing, as I'm getting smaller and clothes, look a little different on me. Now, I'm getting more looks from men so prepare for that and prepare for that energy um. I'M a person that I don't like a lot of male attention in public um, so I assume the smaller I get the more looks and energy from men. I am going to get and I need to prepare myself for that. So that's it! That'S my video and I will be back next month with the full month post, app update, video, alright, take care, peace and blessings um. If you like to donate to my Channel, all the information will be in my um description box. In my comment, section write down your tips, things that you like to eat your experiences. What are you doing to grow your hair back? How do men or the women treating you out there? Do you see a difference? How are your friends and family acting now that you lost weight? Alright, guys I'll talk to you soon? Take care