Black Women With Natural Hair Are Unattractive

Black men do not find black women with natural hair, especially fossy, hair, attractive. Let'S talk about it a couple of weeks back this video from lip gloss was shaking the online black community before this whole episode of a video going viral on how black women with natural hair fussy hair, especially that is not manipulated, i'm not seen as attractive by Black men went viral, hey y'all, it's day, three wearing my natural hair fully shrunken. So let me tell you how i've been feeling i do feel like other people find me less attractive, but i really have to think when these lame choose to only uplift black girls. In wigs and makeup, they really are doing a disservice. They don't care about your well-being, don't care about what that's going to do to your self-confidence. What that's going to do to your edges? What that's going to do to you as a person and it's time for me to let those type of people go and find people who truly like me, you know my real true self. I cannot believe how hard they make it in society as a black girl to just like your regular self. You know the whites is getting up flashing water on their face and leaving the house, god forbid, a black girl. Do the same thing. I'Ve had a few comments saying i look like so-and-so, grown-ass woman. I guess all black girls look like grown women, then, because that's what you look like, if i take them braids into makeup, twin anyways, make sure you're not dragging people down with your insecurities - and i hope more people do this because more black girls to do it. The more easy it's going to be, you know what i mean, but yeah, bye, y'all i've been watching her content on tik tok a lot even here on youtube and i think she's, a very interesting person, someone who is very introspective and she's funny. I, like her sense of humor. I always watch her content and i find myself just smiling. While i watch the content she comes across as a person who is very self-aware, and i like people like that, when this attack on a person for stating our opinion happened. I was very confident that they would not break her. You won't break us up. Our content gets you to think it gives you an insight of her life as a young black woman in this society. Her sharing her journey online is not pretentious. You cannot consistently watch her videos and not have some of those confidence rubber for you. People take for granted the effect that the content you consume online can have on you. We say it is just social media, but is it really just social media? I appreciate the fact that a lot of young black women are coming out to tell their stories coming out to share their lived experiences because i feel like if you do not come out to tell your story who will and if other people tell your story. For you, they may not tell your story accurately. So whenever i see a young black woman sharing experiences online, i'm always grateful for those sets of people who are giving black voices and expression online, and this content that they post, i am sure, would bring about positive change. The lives of other young black women who are of coming of age and coming into themselves, i'm telling you that social media is very powerful. I was a very confident child growing up. I loved everything about myself. I walked around as the most beautiful child, but when i started watching dr 90210 in my early teens, i was watching that show religiously. This show is set in beverly hills where doctors show plastic surgeries. They carry out on their patients to make them look. Fabulous and plastic surgery was glamorized by that show from me that showed so much in my early teens, i began to feel that there was something wrong today. I would see my arms and feel like oh there's something wrong with my arms there's something wrong with my body like i just started picking out flaws in my body that were not there. Before i mean i got my first shapewear when i was just 14. that show really got into my head. I was just 14, i was still growing. I was still developing into a young man, but i felt like i needed to attain some type of bodily perfection for me to be viewed as beautiful and my young about bollywood was my nose. This nose, i hated my nose so much growing up. It was so bad to the point that in my early teens i did not like taking pictures, because i was always conscious about my nose because in that show, people would come and talk about how they don't like their nose. And then they will fix their nose and give them really slim and pointy nose for me to feel beautiful. I needed to have slim pointy nose and one of my goal growing up was. I could not wait to become older so that i'll have money, and when i have money, i'm gon na fix my nose so that i can look beautiful. I carried this weight for so long, this weight of feeling unattractive in my formative years. I carried that weight for so long and even when i stopped watching that show that feeling of unattractiveness was still there. What is funny is it was another plastic surgery show that got me out of that headspace. This one is called bosch in that show. They show you different people who have had various procedures done and how that left them washed. You see people go for a tummy tuck and they come out with some form of deformity and all of that and when they have those deformities, it leaves them in a worse situation than they wear when they felt the need that they should get a plastic surgery And when they find themselves in a bosch situation, most people wish that they were back to their old self, the old self that they hated that made them get the surgery in the first place. So then i was like hold up hold up. Is this not what you want? I was like yeah. This is what i want, but i also want to breathe very well. It was from there i started shedding all of that weight of thinking in some parts of my body are not attractive, and so i've been able to build my confidence in my physical features. You do not just build confidence in your busy in a day or two, because the damage was done to your mind over a long period of time. So it would take a lot of time to build that confidence. And even when, when i was telling myself that i'm beautiful my nose is perfect, it fits my face and all of that aside, acknowledging that various parts of my body is beautiful one other way. I was able to build my confidence because there are some days you tell yourself you're beautiful and you won't believe it one of the ways i was able to build. My confidence was to appreciate each part of my body for its function. I would look at my nose and be like: oh, my nose is beautiful and when i don't believe it i'll be like my nose allows me to breathe, my lips are beautiful and, if i don't believe it i'll be like with these leaves, i'm able to open My mouth to eat the good food that i like. That'S one way i've been able to build my confidence where i appreciate my body not just for the way it looks, but for the function it performs and i'm telling you that has just been a great mind. Shift for me, so you see how the content that we consume online overall social media platform and traditional media outlets, how they can affect us positively or negatively, and this is why i always say: follow creators that look like you follow creators who have similar lived experiences As you follow creators whose value you align with by doing so able to have a positive impact on your person and your journey to discovering yourself and who you intend to be, this is my greatest motivation for doing what i do for creating videos and putting them Online, i want to educate. I want to share my experiences when it comes to beauty and natural hair, because i know how impactful my work can be, and even if it is just one person, just one person that sees my video and they experience a mindset shift just know that i will Sleep at night, knowing that my work is done, i want people to watch my videos and be excited about wearing their natural hair, because i understand the pressure that some people get from the people around them just by wearing their natural hair. I'Ve experienced that a couple of times whenever i wear my natural hair out shrunken unmanipulated, i always get a negative feedback from people who try to take jabs. At my look, i had a superior at work. Tell me to fix my hair and i wore it out in the fro, and it is so funny that in this age and time we think that people would experience all of this less but yeah. We are having people who are like us, people who have kinky hair like or talk down on us whenever we try to wear our natural hair out, and you know what i am grateful that i am no longer that gullible teenager, because if it was that gullible Teenager experiencing some of the things i've experienced when it comes to wearing my natural hair out, i am sure that she would have given in she would have been devastated about no longer a person who has no sense of self. I am very confident in my appearance when people see me with my natural hair and they say that i don't present myself as a big girl. I don't even know what that means like. It does not faze me, and that is why i'm putting all of this content out, because that teenager, who would have done anything to be physically appealing to the eyes of people, is no longer here. She went through all of that for this woman, who is confident in herself and in our parents, to be here to talk to you and share my story, and i hope that, as you listen to my story, it is able to help you navigate life as a Young black woman there's another part to this conversation, so you should definitely check this video out for a continuation of this conversation.