Mil Forced Bridesmaids To Wear Wig To Match Her "Standard" & Threatened To Pull Out "

So I'm bald right. Well, my friend's having this wedding and she's telling me I'm a bridesmaid, but the only way I can come is if I put on this belonged wig, I'm completely against it, because I don't need to wear a wig. I think I'm beautiful, but guys you will not believe what she does next, just as a little background, I grew up in a very strict Christian family, where I wasn't allowed to cut my hair ever because hair is a woman's crown. It was down to my knees by the time I escaped at 18 years of age. Ever since then, I've either had a pixie or a buzz cut or been totally bald, because I could not stand a heavy feeling of long hair or all the brushing washing detangling. After dealing with it for so many years, so that's a big reason, I'm so stubborn about this issue. Also, all my friends involved in this story have always known me as to girl with long hair right now, I'm bald because I always shave my head completely for the summer. One of my good friends is getting married in August and she chose me to be one of her bridesmaids. Everything had been cool, she'd always been the sweetest person and she showed no signs of going bridezilla before any of this until she called me up about three weeks ago and asked me if I could do her a favor and wear a wig to her wedding. She explained that she wanted all of her bridesmaids to match and that she wanted us to all look good in the pictures I told her. I really don't want a wig and we've been on bad terms. Ever since all of our friends are on her side, because quote it's just a wig and quote it's not like she's, always asking you to grow out your hair for the wedding, so she's, not the one being unreasonable, and I know I can be very stubborn, sometimes Which, I guess, is the reason I'm posting here. The thing is, I don't know how many of you will be aware of this, but a wig that will actually look good, slash, realistic, it's expensive, I've already paid for a bridesmaid dress, new shoes, a plane ticket, as well as a small deposit for the person who's Going to do our makeup, this wedding has already cost me a fortune. I could afford a wig if I wanted to, but do I really want to spend the money on something I'll, never wear again when I've already spent a ton of money not really also. This is going on a plantation in Louisiana in August, I'm already going to be hot and sweaty and uncomfortable and a wig will make things a thousand times worse. My biggest reason - and this is why my friends are saying I'm the a-hole they're saying it's the principle of the thing. I think that I don't know it's implying. I look bad because I don't have hair, which I think is just not true personally and it's being bald, so hideous I'll ruin her pictures is she going to make her balding father wear a toupee and I think the I want us to match things stupid. We'Re already matching dresses. Isn'T that enough? I know I know most of you will probably say it's her day, we're supposed to make her happy, but isn't there a line you draw in the sand? I'Ve offered to wear a cute headscarf as a compromise. If my bald head is that offensive, but she's not having it, I'm still in the bridal party and invited, but I don't know for how much longer honestly am I the a-hole for not wanting to wear a wig? What'S up guys, Mr redito, here, I hope you're having a fantastic day, there's a complete update for this and man. This is a difficult story. What a horrible position Ops put into in this! I don't know. I just think it's wrong to ask someone for such a favor. Let'S see exactly what's going on with this update, if you're not subscribed to the channel just take a second right now, click that subscribe button, here's your update! So, first of all, thank you for your replies and advice. I'M writing an update post, because things ended up working out well and because I want people to see my friend isn't actually a horrible person like people were saying she was. I texted her asking if we could work things out over a phone call. We don't live in the same state, so our relationships over phone and text it turns out a lot of you were right and my friends being pressured to ask me to wear a wig. Her future mother-in-law found out about my shaved head and pitched a fit. Like I said in a comment, my friend can be a huge pushover and this woman is apparently a nightmare she's, also paying for the vast majority of the wedding. So my friend felt even more beholden to what she wanted. That'S why she told me she could not pay for the wig mother-in-law refused to neither of them knew how expensive a good wig can be, and my friend only found out when I told her over the phone. That'S also why our dresses, shoes and makeup weren't covered it turns out. My friend is mortified, but what she sees as her mother-in-law making her look cheap and greedy, but she did not want to tell us that, because she's already embarrassed to be relying on her mother-in-law's money, apparently it's her fiance's family, insisting on this huge, extravagant wedding. That'S why her reason did not ring true to me as well. She did not want to hurt my feelings by telling me that her mother-in-law was being so judgmental of me, so she basically blurted out the first thing that came into her head. She assured me she thinks I look great with short, hair and apologized for making me think that I look bad. I know people will question. How could I believe her, but I've been friends with her for a decade and I do give her the benefit of the doubt. We'Ve been there for each other through a lot and really care about one another, I'm still side eyeing the Plantation wedding, but I didn't tell her that because she seemed so stressed out by essentially being bullied by her fiance's family. I just didn't want to pile more stress up. I do know for the fact that she only wanted that venue for the big oak trees, all scattered amongst the property which are admittedly beautiful. I went to the plantations website and noticed they have a memorial to everyone who died there, so that makes me feel slightly better. I did tell her that asking me as a mixed girl to wear a blonde. Wig could be seen as racially insensitive and I explained why she was horrified and apologized over and over sincerely. She wants to stand out from her bridesmaids and pictures, and she didn't even consider implications of asking me because most of her bridesmaids are blonde she's kind of oblivious to things like that. But the few times I've had to point out something she said she could be hurtful and she's always been understanding. Instead of defensive, I decided I'm going to grow out my hair as much as possible for the wedding just to help her not get grief from her Monster-in-Law I'll still be pretty short. So it's okay, she's fine with that except she's, worried I'll still have to deal with snide remarks from her fiance's family. I reassured her that after nearly a decade with short hair, I've pretty much heard it all. By the time we hung up. I felt way better not only about the wedding, but about our friendship, all right. So let me know what you guys thought about this story. We will read a couple comments before we hop the story too. The first one had op reply to it, and it said this yay, I'm so glad it's working out. Chalk went up for communication. I also think you must be a great person and you're definitely a fantastic friend for growing your hair out for her. That'S when Opie replies saying this yeah. Normally I tried to talk things out with her and clear the air ASAP, but around the time she texted me asking me to wear the wig. I had other stuff going on in my life as well, so dealing with that became low priority. It definitely reinforced why I go the route that I did. We spent two weeks annoyed at each other for no reason really just Petty so guys. Let me know your thoughts on that. I still believe it's kind of rude to make someone wear a wig, but at least they compromised in the end and everything seemed to have worked out now. We'Re going to look at Story number two which comes with a complete update, mid-a-hole for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding guys. This is one serious mess, so I threw a pretty big Christmas party every year going on for a decade. Now, a few years ago, at one I threw my friend Tara, I'm at my former co-worker Tony and well. They hit it off. They dated for a while and two years later, once again at my Christmas party. She showed up with a ring on her finger and they announced it. They were engaged. I was super happy for them. They got married this spring and guys uh. We didn't get an invite when I was sending around my party invitations this year. I didn't see any reason to invite them back if they didn't think I was worthy of making their guest list. I'Ve known them for years basically introduced them to each other, and they literally announced their engagement at my home. It got back to me today that they're very upset with us for not inviting them this year, that my party is something they consider special and they think I'm just being petty. A couple of friends mentioned. It was a smaller wedding and they feel like I'm. Just punishing them: it wasn't, though there was 200 people there and I knew at least 50 of them, and I was a little surprised at some of the names that they made the cut over us. I didn't make a stink about it or anything, but I don't see why I should welcome them into my home again after being snubbed like that. Well, my partner thinks I should just let it go and invite them back, but I don't see a reason why I should guys. I need your help on this one. Am I the a-hole for not inviting them alright guys, Mr edito here. So this is a tough one. It seems that they did not get invited to the wedding when 50 other people. They knew, I think, that's kind of disrespectful but hey. Maybe they should ask them why they didn't get invited to the wedding. I think we can go from there, but guys there's an update. So, let's see exactly what's going on, op says this dang y'all, I never expected my post would blow up the way it did since I got so many requests to check back. Well, here's the update. I stuck to my guns and did not invite them to my Christmas party. My partner stood by me when I told him I've made my decision and did not bring it up again. Neither did our friends many of you guessed that they would try and crash our party. I got worried that could happen after all responses, but thankfully it didn't probably a hundred plus guest who wanted to hijack the party to announce she was pregnant. If that's the case, they haven't told anyone as far as I know well, they did, however, decide to try to throw their own party at the same time as ours, several friends told us they were trying to convince them to come to theirs. Instead, I honestly hope they had some guests and had a great time. I wish them no will ill, but I think just about everyone we expected to come to our party, so I doubt they poached any guests from us. They made enough of a last-minute fuss over this that the whole thing became the gossip of our party they're, doing not mine and I chose not to engage in it, but the consensus I heard was everyone thought it was bizarre. They chose not to invite us to their wedding and that them complaining about not being invited to our party was in poor taste. I think the most common question here is: why did we not get an invite to their wedding from what I can tell from people at our party gossiping about the situation? They'Ve said it was because we're a little bit older than they are. I think that's weird, since my partner and I are both 35. they're, 28 and 29. - it's not like we're very far apart, Tara used to hang out with us at least once a week when she was single and I literally introduced them. The whole thing still seems strange to me, but I guess it is what it is so yeah, that's how it all went down. Our party was a blast. We got to see many friends, some of which we haven't seen since covet. Everyone had a great time. People literally brought toddlers we haven't even met yet because of how crazy the world's been over the last few years. It was a wonderful evening. I hope you all had a great Christmas holiday as we did alright. So let's read a couple comments on this: one props to you for standing by your initial decision. They absolutely did not deserve to be invited to your party and I'm very glad you ended up having a great time, yeah, also glad to read the friend guest of op agreed that the couple were acting in poor taste. If I were at the Christmas party, I would have tagged the absent couple in some funny party photos on Instagram to remind them of why they missed out on what they're, due to their just boorish Behavior. So guys. Let me know your thoughts. Do you think op was in the right to not invite the people? I say yes, because it's rude that 50 people knew and they went to the wedding, but op did not get the invite, even though they were friends guys. Let me know your thoughts. Thank you. So much for tuning in to this video, if you want to it, does support me a lot. All you have to do is click that subscribe button. I'M here, every single day check out the description for the links and I'll catch. You guys in the next one. A peace, foreign