How To Be A Warm Feminine Woman || Feminine Rehab || Session 8

Good morning gorgeous, how are you, ladies doing this morning, i hope you're all doing wonderful if you're new here my name is dr michelle daff welcome to my channel and if you're returning, thank you for being here today for another video welcome back, i appreciate your support. So much we are continuing our series today of feminine rehab and we're going to talk today about how you can be a warmer feminine woman. I have gotten so many messages about this, and this is something i feel a lot of us are struggling with as women. How to exude that extra quality that attracts people to us that keeps people feeling comfortable and warm around us and allows us to feel like we're contributing into other people's lives. So i want you to go ahead and sit back. Relax get something warm to drink, get something to write with, and let's talk about this before we begin the video, i want you to click the subscribe button, if you like videos like this to hopefully help you in your journey as a woman and follow me on Instagram at a feminine impression, my podcast, a feminine impression for more feminine inspiration and visit. My website findforever.com and purchase my fragrance 29 11.. So what exactly? Does it mean to be a warm woman? Warmth is defined as having enthusiasm, affection or kindness. As a feminine woman, you can look the parts. Okay, you can be stunning, you can have manners, you can have a great job, a great man, a great lifestyle, but you as a person can lack something called warmth, meaning that you are not approachable. You don't exude kindness or softness, and these are the keys to really bringing out your femininity. This is what takes you from just being a woman to being a feminine woman. This special extra quality, having warmth as a feminine woman, can open so many doors for you. It can help you to gain more friends, help you to advance in your job, depending on what kind of job or career you have. It can also elevate and advance you in your job. It'Ll help you to be a better mother, a better spouse and allow you to feel more connected to society in general. If you are a woman who has warmth, then people probably tell you that you're easily approachable that you're very kind and generous that you're thoughtful you're, easy to talk to you're, loving and people may even tell you that you're down to earth, if you're, someone who struggles With warmth, then, you may have heard maybe through the grapevine or people have told you that you come off as cold. You come off as abrasive, aggressive, harsh unapproachable and maybe even self-absorbed, sometimes, but these are things that you probably hear in your life. If you either have a lot of warmth or struggle with it now sweetheart, no one on this planet has every single fabulous quality. Okay, we are all lacking something just because you're lacking warmth. It does not make you a bad person. We all have things that we are lacking and that's a beautiful thing, because it allows you to explore yourself and find ways that you can better yourself as a person, and my personal opinion is that's why i believe god gave us families, people who have very unique Characteristics that we have to live with, we have to get along with, and it teaches us where we maybe have strengths and weaknesses, so do not feel bad. We all have something we are lacking. This is your opportunity to delve into that and make some changes. I do want to point out that, as a black woman in america, this is a quality that we are stereotyped to lack meaning a lot of times. People see black women as being aggressive, having an attitude being abrasive and lacking warmth. This could be true in some households, where maybe you had models who didn't want you to be warm as a woman and maybe through watching your mom and your sisters and your cousins. You did learn to kind of be a little bit cold or to put up a wall or to have an attitude thinking that that gives you some power. Some leverage, some strength and some families have maybe even taught you that being warm is a weakness. So i'm saying this because you may be a very warm person on the inside, but maybe have been taught that being warm is a negative thing. Maybe you have anxieties or other issues that stop you from being able to be a warm woman. You absolutely cannot be a warm woman if you're not vulnerable, you have to have vulnerability, because that's what shows people you are human and that you are open to experiences. You are willing to put yourself out there a little bit for someone else's sake. You will have to embrace vulnerability in order to be warm. I believe that there are three main principles that are absolutely necessary if you want to be more of a warm feminine woman, and they are your tone, your posture and your love for other people. So that's what we're going to discuss today, tone posture and love for other people. I am also going to talk about things that get in the way of you being warm, but i'm going to do that on my podcast. So if you want more information on how to be a warmer feminine woman, then after listening to this video head over to my podcast and get that information when you're having a conversation with someone, your tone is going to have a direct impact on how they receive You so learning to monitor your tone when you're talking to people will help you to be more of a warm woman. This means that when you're, having a conversation with someone that you mind, your voice, allow your tone to be more gentle, and you can do this by just speaking a little bit slower when you slow down your pace of speaking, you appear to be more confident and You appear to be more interested. It shows that you're taking the time to really listen and to give your input. Your goal is to exude that love and that kindness that we were talking about earlier to really be present in the moment. So try not to rush your words and sound like you have somewhere better to be try not to be harsh with your words and try not to use words that are very sharp and abrasive. Do not use profanity and try not to have too many conversations. During times where you feel like you cannot give your full attention or you're just not in the best mood during that time of day. This will take you analyzing yourself and figuring out when you come off the most cold, the most sharp the most rushed. So maybe you don't want to talk to anyone when you're, actually in a rush, because you can't be warm you're focused on getting this somewhere on time. Maybe you don't want to talk to people first thing in the morning before you have your coffee or your run or your devotion, and you know that you need to give yourself a little more time to ease into your day before having conversations, or maybe you might Be someone who has a tough job has a lot going on in their lives during the day and right when you get home from work, is not the best time for you. You may require some time to sort of decompress and then you can have conversations with people so remind yourself that you can take breaks. You can tell people, i will get back to you. I will call you back or even respond to an email when you are in a better space as a warm feminine woman, you are going to try your best to stay completely away from yelling or raising your voice when you're upset, you will get a better response From people, even if you are upset when you choose to lower the tone and the volume of your voice when the tensions start to get higher, so, for example, if you're having a conversation with someone and you're trying to be understanding and warm and they're getting angry And raising their voice, that's the time for you to actually be more respectful and more considerate and lower yours. And this will not only allow you to come off as warm and as caring and as kind but it'll also kind of bounce off. That reflection, that they are being out of control and it causes people to self-reflect even later on that their behavior was inappropriate. So there is an element of self-control when you want to be a warm woman. All of this stuff is very purposeful. Although there are some women who are just naturally born as people people, they love people, they love being kind and generous and loving. It'S just part of their nature. Being warm comes more naturally to them, but when we're under pressure we're feeling attacked when we're in a situation where we have to use that inner strength make sure you are lowering the volume of your voice. Take your tone down a notch and it'll give off an impression of warmth. Your tone also applies to emails and any online communications or text messages. So when you're writing an email or sending a text, you can still come off as warm, and i do this a lot of times by using things like openings when you're writing an email asking someone how their day is going. You hope that they're doing well saying what i need to say in the most kind language i can use using a closing, that's warm and you can even use the word warm like warmest regards to you. These words do have a psychological effect and it'll help soften a blow or soften your emails. The same principle applies to text messaging, using words that are soft that are not abrasive and even adding emojis can warm up a text message. You can add some hearts or some stars or just a bitmoji or something to let the person know that you are trying to convey this message in the warmest possible way. Now, let's talk about posture as a warm and feminine woman, your body language is going to say more about how you truly feel than anything. It'Ll speak before you speak. So when you are trying to actively work on being a more warm person, then you're gon na have to mind your body. There are certain stances that come off as very cold, for example, having your arms crossed having your neck pushed back rolling your eyes. Looking from side to side, even if your arms are not crossed and you're just kind of looking around, when someone's talking to you you're not present, and you do not appear warm when you want to exude warmth, you are going to be leaning into the person. If you have a desk in front of you, your arms can be crossed in the desk and you can be leaning in you want to have eye contact. Having eye contact is the most respectful way here in the western world of communicating with someone in person you're. Looking into their eyes, you're trying to be present in the moment, don't get lost, don't get lost in their eyes, be present into what they're saying and nod and smile and look like you are engaged in that conversation. If you're having a conversation with someone - and you are looking them in the eyes but you're looking at them like this, with your eyebrow raised or with a frown and they're trying to tell you something - maybe something that's hard for them to say. Maybe they are embarrassed about something that they're sharing or they're telling you about something bad: that's happened to them and you're looking at them with disgust. Maybe they made a bad choice and they just want to vent to you and you're judging them. All of those things show up on your face and it does not scream warmth. If you want to exude warmth, then try things like smiling smiling will always help you to appear warm. The warmest people are always smiling because smiling is inviting it's reassuring. It'S calming and you will get so much more out of life if you choose to smile and not like a creepy smile that doesn't change, but a genuine, authentic smile. Your own kind of smile, also turning your head a little bit to the side when someone's talking just shows warmth. It shows that you are engaged having your shoulders kind of push forward. These are things that, if they're not natural for you, don't even do because it will look awkward, you will be more focused on that than on listening to them, but, as you start to become more comfortable in your body, you can play around with your body a Little bit and learn different poses and postures and ways of seeming engaged. I have seen women do this, who are maybe a little bit more awkward or they struggle socially. I know a young lady who has autism and she knows that she has some social deficits and she's always actively trying to be better with it. And i notice that when she's speaking to me, she purposely does things to show that she's engaged and she does always sort of lean in when she's talking to you. She does kind of put her hands here when you say something so that she is showing that she feels what you feel and i'll admit. I really enjoy talking to her because she's always present and showing that she cares when we're talking. So, even if this is difficult for you, the more you practice it, the more natural it will become, and no one will know the difference. Another way that you can be more warm with your body, language is by using touch now. Everyone is not comfortable with touching, and many people are not comfortable being touched, so you do have to be very mindful with this, but if it's someone, you are very comfortable with someone that you've known for a long time, someone who is truly suffering say a person At work told you that their mother just passed away, that is heavy, that's something where you may want to put your hand on their shoulder and say i am so sorry or give them a hug if a hug is appropriate. You may also put your hand on someone's back if maybe it's a child, these purposeful body language strategies really do make a difference in a person feeling that they're being taken care of and a person being able to feel the warmth coming from you and one thing That you should absolutely try to stay away from in terms of body language when you're trying to be a warm feminine woman is multitasking, so say someone walks into the room, say you're, a mother and your child comes in to tell you something or you're an employee And one of your co-workers comes in your office, always give them your attention so turn from your computer and look at them. It'S easy to sit there and go uh-huh, uh-huh all right sure as you're typing away, but it does not show warmth. It does not show that you care if you're a mother and your child comes into the room and you're reading your book or you're on your phone. Your tablet put it down close it and give them your full attention. No one is more important than your child and they deserve to know that they are more important than anything else. You'Re doing, and in the moment it may seem like whatever you're doing, is more important, but if that child were no longer there, you would think differently. They come first, your family should always be a priority, and it's not enough to just say it. You show it by the way that you behave and if you want to be more of a nurturing warmer mother and spouse, then you will give people your full attention and warm body language when they're speaking to you and my love, the final area, to focus on. If you are actively trying to be more of a warm and feminine woman, is your love for other people? This is a cornerstone of warmth. How do you feel about other people? Do you want to be warm? Do you want to like people? Do you care about? Other people genuinely you cannot fake warmth, because people will see right through you. I think, in my opinion, the best people to see right through it are children and babies can tell when a person is truly warm just from their presence. So again the question i'm asking you is: do you want to when it comes down to it being a feminine woman? It'S all about what you want to do. Do you desire to cook a meal for your family, because, if you do, while you're doing it, you're gon na put love into it, you're gon na serve it with a smile, you're gon na serve it with plates and dishware. That is beautiful because you truly want to give your family that experience. Do you genuinely want to know how people are doing? Do you want to celebrate other people's accomplishments? Because when you want to it'll, show in your actions, you'll check up on people and see how they're doing you'll send a gift or flowers when someone has a baby or graduates, you will do these things because you genuinely love people. Your warmth will show up in your wants. In being a warm feminine woman, you will learn to empathize with people and consider other people's feelings. So, even if you are in a position of power at work and you have to deliver some - not so good news, you will do so with empathy. You may have to be matter of fact, as you're saying certain things so that you can say the right things, but once you're done delivering the news, you'll end it with warmth, you'll end it by saying you know, i know you try your best. I know you're dealing with a lot right now and if i could, i would or if things change in the future, i would love to have you back on this project whatever it is that you can say to show that you are human too, even if you're In a position of power, people do know when you truly are warm on the inside when you're not ruthless, even if you have to put on a face in order to get through your position. At the end of the day, people will know you're warm based on how you do things, how you say things how you take care of other people if you're part of an organization whether it be work church, a social group you're part of your family, and you Hear about something tragic or positive: that's happened to someone else. You can show warmth by supporting them and not by sending a condolence card by contributing to something that the group is doing by going out of your way to give that person a call and check on them. You can also choose to memorize certain openings and closings. There is absolutely nothing wrong with memorizing certain things to say to help you in your conversations, so openings and closings start like. So how was your weekend when you're at work or when you're done talking to someone have a wonderful day, you'd, be surprised how many people struggle with communication, because they don't have a love for others. They actually don't care. How your weekend was. They actually don't care. If you have a nice day, if you say these things, it's because you truly do care. You truly don't want to walk away from an interaction that just seemed very transactional. That seemed like you just stopped this person to dump your personal problems on them, but that you actually appreciated that small short exchange and you're wishing them well, so warmth does enter in through what you say when you start a conversation and how you end a conversation. So if you go to a party and you meet someone and you ask them a question like oh so how do you know this person, or i really love that outfit? It looks really good on you, starting with something that's just neutral, but warm and then ending by saying it was wonderful to meet you or i hope we can meet again during better circumstances. These short, intentional openings and closings will do a lot for you, exuding warmth. I would love for you to leave a comment below sharing some of your go-to openings and closings in social situations that give warmth things that you can kind of depend on to say that will allow people to know that you were present caring and kind, although it May seem insignificant. You have no idea how much your kindness and your love can affect another person's life, but a quick glance, a smile or just a little hand. Wave can go a long way. I don't know if you've had this experience. If you have please share it below, but being in the presence of god always brings warmth to my body, to my environment and to other people around me. The more time i spend in prayer in praise in fasting, in any situation where i am getting close to god, i am in those moments transformed to be more of a warm person. The closer you get to god in your relationship with him will change you. The holy spirit will start to work on you and help you to empathize with people help you to see people as people and help you not to have the fear and the anxiety to take a step of vulnerability and put yourself out there to help someone else. He will start to infuse the qualities of jesus in to you, and you will start to be more warm. The fruit of the spirit will start just showing up in your personality and in your behaviors, and these things won't be so hard. You'Ll still have to be mindful, but you won't be forcing it anymore. It will truly be who you are. As god's daughter, you are called to love other people, the way that you love yourself, the same love that you would want other people to give to you. You are asked and required to give it to other people, and it will always fill you back up. You will always have an abundance to give and you will finally start to transform into a warm beautiful, feminine woman. Again, i have so much more information on this particular topic, including certain things that you should absolutely stop doing, or else all of this work will be for nothing. For example, things like gossiping about people will automatically cancel all of the warmth. You'Ve been showing because people won't really believe you're that warm and kind if you're willing to gossip and slander, but i have other things that i want to share with you so visit my podcast, a feminine impression and listen to this podcast with every single thing you Do it's a process and it's a day to day decision you can absolutely be a warm woman. All it takes is practice and focus trying your absolute best to be the person you would want in your life, the person you never had in your life and remember that with god you will be fine forever. He will help you in all of these things. With that said, i also want you to visit my website wwe. 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If you haven't watched my last video, please watch it because i talk about all the things that are kind of coming up. This year we are reading a book titled when women pray. This book talks about 10 different women in the bible and how god used their life through their decision to pray, we're discussing one chapter per week and this week we're focused on hannah so join me on sunday at 12 noon. Pst here to discuss the book when women pray also follow me on my instagram page, a feminine impression and my personal page, dr michelle dab. Thank you so much for sharing your time with me today. My love, i pray that this information truly changes. Your life, may the lord bless you and keep you. May you let his face shine upon you and give you peace, big kisses, see the next video bye. You