Self Love, Confidence+Birth Control+Things I Learned In My New Marriage Ft Luvmehair|Lydia Stanley

I know send your papa you're leaving someone else's life, something you saw online. You can't do that here, like just get away, it's okay to feel unmotivated, so many people go through life, not living. I have not have given my husband the chance, so please there's no eyeshadow. Look it's not for me. I tried it. I can't I've collected this Brand's money. I have to give them their video. Everybody must not be Instagram famous. How did you know you were in love with Mr M? You have to give you some time on how long it took to build my Instagram. My brain just knows that I'm a queen be helpful with your content with friends before you become robust, he's crescendio wood gotten from scent by beams whatever size. You are love yourself money. You know, let us be dripping in the doors. Okay, foreign. I haven't sat down to just tell you Happy New Year so come on in today we're going to be playing with a beautiful week, and I'm also going to be doing my makeup. I'M going to be showing you I kind of updated look. I don't know if what I'm going to do for the eyeshadow, but the base is what I will do and I kind of got new products. Actually that are quite you know you can get your hands on them. I'M just gon na. I want to play makeup while I answer questions you butterfly sent me so if that sounds like something you like to watch hang out with me on this fine, I don't know. I watch this on Saturday comment: what they watching this video and what the time is where you are so without further talking give me a thumbs up. I know you're going to enjoy the video subscribe to my channel and, let's get into it. The hair we're going to be installing today is from love me here. I love my hair at this point. Is family like if you've not known about love me here, know them today, their hair is born. I'Ve never had a bad hair tail and I bought some wigs from them and I was working with them. So I'm not just telling you rubbish, their lace comes pre-ploped privileged, and let me just this is the the release is already told for you to match your hair. Like just look at that, okay, we tried it on. It comes well packaged. Just look at all the veggies already cooked I'm moving on that black white background, so you can see how it looks this hair comes already and it feels so soft. It smells good. You know all the good thing always save these bags for storing your wigs guitar software um, there's a pressure with more goodies lashes. Actually like this, I'm going to gift it back to someone watching this video. Hopefully someone in mind your lash looks like you'll get this. You get earrings, I guess the silver hoop and you get all of them in this bag comment something about my hair, just the fun fun little giveaway. It also has this very pretty, maybe not pretty but cute. I wish I opened this on Christmas. I'Ve pasted this and all my doors, trust me and this cute bag as well. So in case you want to gift this to someone you can take this out and put it as a gift. So if you think about it, it's actually a really good gift idea for someone, because their list comes already customized. You don't have to do anything, so this beauty is actually just ready to go. I'M just going to lay my hair like we're going to. We have started the video the get ready with me. I'Ve started because I'm actually trying to get ready. Okay, so the first person said hang out with lifa and Vlog is yours should do a challenger too? I did Vlog my trip in Lagos and the links already. The link should be in the description. One is ready with almost 100K views, like you, butterflies did that. So, if you haven't watched that video go watch it and if you have watched, you can't watch it again, can't share it. Okay, um meet and greets meet and greet meat and grits should we date with angry. This is a new year because I asked that question around when I was in Lagos getting that sticks back my first day here. I'M sorry like this everything I don't even know what it's called the name isn't just hero, so I would love today meet and greet to honestly should we comment down below. We can plan it. If you have a space - or you know someone that can give us a space because I know spaces are very costly in Lagos, if you have a pretty space, I feel like we can do something we didn't make it like. I could make some finger foods if you watch my Vlog. You know I cook really good. Let me know comment down below, should we do a meet and greeting Lagos for us and I love to meet you people up. No jokes, no jokes! I want to hug out of you and give you kisses and tell you how much I love you and I know I have a lot of butterflies in Lagos, like even my demographics. Like my demographics, like shows down, I mean Lagos babe, but I'm not living in Lagos, but that makes sense. I love most of the brands come to work with me because I feel butterflies actually and the time I've catch this week and it's a three-part wig. So you only have pattern that you see there, no without any foundation, look at how good that match is, and this is so soft and so pretty so pretty treat yourself to a good wig in this 20. 23. Okay, it comes with four clips and we love me here what you see like exactly this way, you're saying here, you get it and this band, so that's so pretty when oh, that feels so nice wow wow, and it's very thick to like it's very thick. Most. Oh, I love this so much and I've been in need of a very pretty easy to go because they see battery. You won't have to stress during all of this. Oh yeah wow. That'S so pretty you have to stress Lane the entire frontal. Let'S just go ahead and cut this, isn't it I'll just keep touching this here? So pretty? Okay, next, this butterfly says it's not a question, I'm sure I love how confident you are and on this matter of confidence eh. Let me tell you something: where is my hair clip? I feel like somehow bigger babies are expected to not feel confident like we're expected to soak all the time, because we are not skinny or we're expected to soak all the time, because Society does not expect. How dare you love your big tummy? How dare you love how thick and juicy your ties are? How dare you love that about yourself? You know you're supposed to be ashamed of it and, to be honest, growing up, I let that kind of affect how I saw myself that Viewpoint really messed me up. I swear like really messed me up when I was younger, so I'm going to say this: they love how I'm confident I'm not trying to exude anything extra and just financing. This is me, you know like if you don't like it just go, but I'm not going to stop loving myself ever again, like I've spent a lot of time, looking away from the mirror or just not thinking I was what is to be ashamed of myself anymore And I wish I wish more than anything that more girls like me to have my body would get more confident I wear whatever I like now don't care, I don't send your papa, like literally, I know, send your papa Okay. So this you love. How confident? I am now yeah, I'm just being me: don't expect that I'll never not be okay with my body, whatever, whatever suck I come in, I'm still Lydia. Do you get and that's why I feel like everybody needs to imbibe whatever size. You are love yourself, I'm just living my life, I'm just wearing what I want, I'm just being, not just being so. Why are you liking? It is not supposed to be there and that's what Society does that's what that's? How they've conditioned Us big girls to be big boys too? What does shame mean? Is crazy. Oh anyway, thank you for my for your compliments um. I hope in being myself, I really am playing rough play with this hair, like the thing is so finely plucked up. I feel like I'm, almost cutting the hair. Of course you've had you want to cut it in a zigzag motion, because you know it's gon na look more realistic. That way. Thank you for your compliments. My love um. I hope you can bring myself. I inspire you watching to be yourself too. Life is short like so many people go through life, not living, they don't live like they just spend it inside their head talked away by some insecurity or the other. Like you, don't need money to live life or forget what you see on social media. You don't need money to live your life, so if living your life is just being okay with yourself, I was so unhappy with my body for no those times. I thought I was so overweight. I was literally the smallest in my life. Like I walk, I walk out. I cannot get back to those with that. I was that time. Looking down on my body embrace the body you're in right now, it's all you've got honestly in whatever package you come. Let your body not determine how you love yourself or determine how you live your life. Yes, you can make better decisions, but let's not determine what you know anyway. Moving on hi Lydia, what's the most useful thing, you've learned this year? Okay, so I don't know what category I think about myself, I feel, like I love organizing, you know my brain cannot function in a dirty space like this video I've been wanting to record it first, my camera was broken, still broken, actually full disclosure. This - and this thing I'm filming on is not even mine completely April. I want to buy a new lens at the end of the month. If my money completes shy, I borrowed this. One is one fair to film, so content creation was gone by all means anyway. The most useful thing I've learned about myself is that I love to organize and what I learned in this 2020 two was just a tick tock. I had seen where she was basically saying how um, instead of putting things down, put it away so like that's it. That'S the organization tip. I learned, because I always wonder why my house does not stay clean for the amount of times I like to clean and vacuum, and all of that nah pull up. It'S going to be so much easier. Putting things away is just easier for me. In the long run, it makes me a lot more efficient in cleaning up my space and rather than deal with the whole dirty power of or scattered pile of clothes. I'M dealing with an orange palette. Oh, I knew I kept my laundry already where it's meant to be. I don't have to sort out clean clothes. Sometimes you know we can get mumbled up from the dirty ones like because I didn't take it out through the week. Do you get? I was just wearing and dropping saying at the end of the week out care for it, so even with the kitchen, if I use something from the locker, I mentally try to put it back into that Locker. I try as much as I can remember. To put it back into that look, and so that it just stays, you know so yeah, I think that's a lot of say is the most useful thing that I've learned this year and also I like peace. Is that useful, Zen mode man I like it. So I think that's useful in helping me eliminate, like basically people pleasing I'll, be scared to not make anybody angry or not voicing how I feel literally now I speak up for Libya. I speak up for myself, so I think the most useful thing, because if I don't speak up for myself later in the house I'll, let me know if you go through that too later in the house, I'll be feeling bad like. I should have said this backwards. Even in my comment section, if all those people - no it's not butterflies - that behave that way, some mentally rubbish people when they come to my comments and somebody's commenting where I don't want to curse, word stuff about my body and all I'm just literally tell them that See you can't do that here, like just get away, because at the end of the day, peace of mind, it's the most important. I'Ve also learned how to compartmentalize work. I think that's something that we should talk about. I'Ve learned how to give myself work days because before I'll try to clean my house, I'll also try to cook, and I also try to record or edit and I'll burn out bad. Sometimes I'll not be able to do any of the tags because I'm overwhelmed by it, so I guess one of the useful tips I learned or useful to my lens is to compartmentalize my work days from cleaning days. That'S kind of helped me get a routine before I didn't know how to do it, because you know this is my first time living on my own managing a house on your own, like, of course, with my husband, but like I've lived under my parents. If you get me, managing your house by yourself is a whole nother fit like give it to people who live alone, like young girls like come, see the mommy Sandra Sandra. If it's not for them or it's not an easy thing. So I've just like started learning that okay, this is what needs. This is what has to happen. You get it's not the whole house, you should. If you don't do anything, the whole house will just be a mess and nobody is gon na come to your rescue. So somebody said: do you use birth controls if you, if you do, which I don't know, if I'm at Liberty, to discuss my birth control with you? Personally, I wouldn't mind telling you boy: there are some factors into play that are prohibiting me from doing that. But if I were to advise you get a birth control that is easy set and forget it. How do you create time to Vlog and film and how do you schedule and organize the time for YouTube? How I create time to Vlog vlogging is just your everyday life shape. So just actually, my cooking scenes are planned for I plan my cooking since, and it just has to fall on the day that I'm not filming or cleaning the house. The house has to be already clean. I cannot for the life of me. I cannot eat it in a dirty house. I don't know film in a dirty house, so the health has to be clean, so I just make sure that the house is clean and that allows me to think straight and I plan you know it's easy to get carried away when you're walking from home extra Security, that's literally all I need to do for lovely hairs like straight from the box installation I'll totally advise like you think of interesting things. You can't showcase on your vlog and plan those things like I'm not saying, plan the reaction but be ready to Vlog. If you want to Vlog, you have to take it seriously, be ready if you're using your phone, let your phone camera be on deck, ready to capture moments that you think will do well on your Channel or for your audience, and that's just it. That'S just what I'll say if you're, not patient with vlogging and all of that you won't grow, you won't go. So I won't advise you to jump into it. If it's not something that you really want to do, but that's how I plan and then the posting time YouTube shows you posting time they follow it. Even on your Instagram, if you're a Creator, you should follow all those Analytics check your analytics and follow it. You see them show you the best time that your audience is on. Is your audience watching you that will give way for other people to find your videos. So if your audience are not seeing your videos and clicking on it and watching and commenting right now pause and comment so that it can help my video, I'm begging you I want to get to 100K, that's how you grow. So if I post this video say 12 midnight, nobody will see it drink it, that's not the best time for me, so I just follow it my best times. I follow it. Sometimes it changes with the season and sometimes you know just common sense. You cannot be in Nigeria posting by 5am. Nobody is awake by that time or you know posting late at night, midnight 12 minutes 11. 12, except you have a fan base and there's something because my husband watches this show called mxr please, although they are not based in Nigeria but like that's, his bedtime show so I'm sure the day they will not post one night, they post every night. So I'm sure the day they do not post one night. I don't know if my husband is gon na, be able to sleep so make sure what you're giving is valuable as well is what I'm trying to say and that's how I schedule my time for posting on YouTube. You have to give YouTube time on the times. I was not caring about YouTube and not really posting here and there I didn't see growth. Oh now I take it very seriously. Sometimes I'm up at night. It'S discipline. I just want to say it's discipline. At the end of the day, ten person asks: how long did it take you to build your Instagram on how I don't think my Instagram is even built for some reason. I just fell off of posting on Instagram and I don't know why. I don't know why. Okay, let's add in our makeup today: okay, oh, but this hair is so bouncy like. Can you see that it's my chest moving because my black um? This is not allowing you see it like. Can you see that? That'S so pretty? That'S so pretty, and it's so full bouncy as well wow. This is my thing I tied behind moving on to makeup, I'm tempted to call my brows. Well, I don't want to I'm using this, so yeah everything I use. I promise you will be listed in the description box down below. I promise every single thing I'll do the extra work, because it's actually a lot of work or I'll list. It browse this and I'll list. The brand the brands I'll be listing them with their Instagram handle because most Nigerian Brands don't have um with science. Most of them do, but most of them don't. So I can't really post links for you. It'S actually easier just message them on Instagram and buy whatever it is you like, and you want to try out. Okay, my love all right go ahead and brought you in, and I have to cover myself so how long it took me to grow Instagram. I honestly thought that you know when people get married. You know that life change people don't talk about it enough, please, as you're looking at my skin, I'm looking at it in the mirror, too rush Run come by myself luxury. I made that product with them and that's all I use on my face all I use, of course I've applied sunscreen. I also started using this new year, luminos 630, and I really like it like my skin. I agree with it. It'S the sunscreen I have on now on this, then I wanted to film a detailed eyebrow tutorial. Let me know if you want to see it like covering your eyebrow and then filling it up. Well, today is not the day back to my baby girl. That asked me how long it took to build my Instagram I was saying like married people are always say like: why do people get married and not post me when I get married I'll still be posting, though I fell off the bandwagon in 2022 posting on Instagram And I don't even feel bad about it, of course, as a social media person, I do not advise it because you know you kind of need to be online all the time to be relevant, but I was okay. Last year we've just been looking and I was pissed. I was at peace with that. That came at a point where I've sort of viewed my brand thankful to um Brands. Like love me head, I keep coming back new band Beauty. You know Tim Essentials. This brow stuff I use is from Team Essentials. That'S on this part of the Brows. I'Ll just show you now I spit um, it's my everyday school official spring, so growing my Instagram took years. I started Instagram as far back as 2014 and I am a self-taught makeup artist, so I started it in school and going back to that period. I just feel like it was just God directing me towards this field, because I tried it. I tried to work in a corporate setting and it was not working so growing. Instagram takes time A lot of time. You have to be dedicated to posting. I used to post every day at some point Every Blessed day on my Instagram. Do you know the dedication that too guys to be so focused, though I don't know what happened now? Maybe I guess I'm just transitioning into another phase of my life. I guess for yeah, post post post, relevant things post helpful thing engage with your audience. You will never see me ignore my butterflies, like I always comment back even on Instagram. I comment back I'm trying to see if I can build a tick tock audience this year, I'm just scared of the new Waters you get. You know for a while. We kept thinking - oh no, just a new way. People will not be interested in it where it seems to be growing by the day, and I want to be part of that. I want to make money on there too. So wish me luck with that. I already have a tick tock. I'Ve created one, this video style, oh cutting my hand, and that's right, oh, be careful with the razor when you're using it hair inside my eyes. I was cleaning it and I don't care this video. He went to Vegas and I did my makeup and the heat was really messy on my makeup because I kind of just you know the KD is quite cold, even if it's hot still, but it's quite cold. Sometimes it can be cooler than Lagos. You know much cooler than English, so I wanted to show you this in case you're living in Lagos. This is Zaron oil block modifier. If I had remembered, I would have taken this actually bought a new one, just to show you in this video like, if you want your makeup by getting into the periods that will be very hot from the rain, so I'm just showing you now take it on Your brush, like this everywhere that you feel like you, bring out oil from and your makeup will stay put intact. You have to let this dry completely. I just forgot about it and my makeup was sweating off. That was proper product. I used above my brows like this is from 10 Essentials. We'Re doing like a quick beat not into major so posting on. Instagram is your best friend post post literally jump on trends fly on trains now that rivers are there post on reels post on Tick Tock? Don'T underestimate your power of than the power of social media? That'S just what I'll say to you like in trying to grow yourself, because my Instagram is growing now like now, I don't post as frequent and I still gain followers every day, but the most my Instagram grew was when I was posting every day. Like the most. My Instagram goes: that period was literally getting almost 100 followers every day, so my advice is to post and post relevant stuff on all social media. To be honest, be helpful with your content. You'Re helping people do their makeup be helpful with that, if you're helping people I'm using this hidden, esta primer, just to smooth things out, if you're helping people with anything, just make sure that you know when they watch your this one. Actually, when they watch your contents, let them gain something so yeah. All your primary steps have to dry individually, make sure the now Zaron has already dried trust me. This was the combo I did on my wedding day. I just forgot about it because I had done my makeup so easily in the North, without needing those heavy duty, primers and just mezzle his glasses from Super videos. Clear sit in daylight. If you don't have a good camera clean, your phone at least try to buy an iPhone 6 at least fairly used. You know, invest in your craft. If you don't invest in in this social media thing, you know, I'm not saying, go and break the bank or invest okay promise. You that's the best way. I can advise you and don't kill yourself trust the process, but don't kill yourself. If you don't grow, you don't grow. It'S okay! You know it's! Okay, it's okay! My dear everybody must not be Instagram famous. I see more social media popping up, so I'm just saying at the end of the day, if you want to do it, you have to it takes time 2014. This is 20.. I know I know if I want to get 200k. I know what to do on my Instagram. Like I know these same tips, I've told you now I'll just be more consistent when they're posting more helpful things things that'll get people engaged commenting. You know, nice makeup looks more intricate. Makeup looks you know. I know like it's just the time. I don't have right now and that's just the phase of life I mean so that's advice I'll, give you um this butterfly acts. What do you do when you feel unmotivated? Do you ever feel unmotivated? Babes literally I'm telling you today, I was supposed to film this video never did not bring light in time, so at the end of the day, don't skip color, corrector, okay, trust me rewind and look at my face all those dark marks that I've covered. This is what you're going to do, that you need to do to get a Flawless face. Just made me just feel sad. I didn't want to Vlog again. I didn't want to the light, has just been so bad. What I'm trying to say is. I started feeling unmotivated even to work out that I celebrating home workout again. The vibe is just to go with it as you feel it in those moments. At the end of the day, if you don't feel good, you can't give good black opal. I haven't used them in a while, so I said, let me try that I think my color used to be beautiful bronze. Am I still beautiful yeah? This is what I want to have here. Cairo curve, I think, are a little bit that much no. This is better. This is how you find your foundation. Much supposed to blend in, like this carob has more red than this one that has a lot more yellow. You can see it. You can see the undertone all right um. So what I do in those periods is, I just feel the feels I let myself feel the feel I don't try to force myself to record it will show. I don't try to force myself to film, but I'm conscious that. Ah, if I don't do this thing at the end of the day, nobody is coming to my help. I'Ve collected this Brand's money. I have to give them their video, whether I like it or not, whether I'm feeling it or not. So I guess discipline helps me and filming ahead of time as well. Like creators always have this moment when they feel so like. I want to pump out 20 000 videos pump them out record. It make sure that it's not detailed, don't say the date in any of the videos. You know. Does it seep for your creator? Don'T say your dates except you're sure you are posting it next week, if not sometimes I've posted videos on my page that it's like months and you won't know because of it's not dated and that's the Saving Grace for Content creators. So that's a tip. I can share with you make sure your testing is not dated your content, that you're recording bulk film, so that when you feel tired, you can be editing those ones behind the scene and just feel it it's okay to feel unmotivated. I literally just got out of a rut a few days ago and I'm feeling motivated again. It comes and goes, but I'm still posting because I have videos that I have recorded So better record. There has to be saving grace. These are the foundations for today, I'm using Born This Way, and I'm also using. Why do we stop using a legal concealer? This is the shade form. This is a very good um budget, friendly concealer. This one is even finished. I need to go and get another one like it's very budget friendly and very full coverage anyway I'll be mixing two of them to do my under eye today, I like your skin, so much, please, which cream are you using for your glowing skin? Honestly, if there are 10 comments on my Vlogs, five of them are about my skin. I guess it's genetics to be very honest with you and just the products. I use I've not been one to go crazy about. Oh, you know you got ta use this kind of cream. If you want to see this kind of look, you know I'm not that kind of person. I literally use Nivea on my skin Nivea um cocoa, nourishing cocoa um cream my face. I use this sand balm from under our luxury. This is what I was talking about earlier. I made this product with them and this is all I use literally for my face. This is the New Year stuff I was talking about. Let me know 6. 30.. It'S a really good buy if you want to try out something that is easily got them, but I recommend you get this and yeah genetics. My Mama gave it to me: okay, I'll, let this dry down and then come on and okay. Let me add some Too Faced on this tree, I like to blend them at the same time, this butterfly says: do you intend to move to Lagos? What'S your current view about living in Katy, as you are now my because I watch this video of yours in the past you're just talking about my past video and to be honest, we want to move, but we're still trying to put some things in place. First, I think that's the best answer I can give you, because Lagos is very inspiring honestly. Every time I go there. It'S like, I don't know, is so sleepy such a sleepy town and you don't realize how sleepy it is until you go somewhere. That is not sleepy. Does that make sense, and I feel like it's holding us back from a lot of our dreams. You know so just to cut. Please don't sleep on any girl, don't sleep on it! Okay! I just want you to know that engineering inspired a big girl that has been dealing with depression. Oh, I love you, baby girl, internet, Hulk, kiss kiss um. Honestly, I feel you baby girl and I hope it gets. I hope it gets better for you. I'M using Ebony Brown so very baby girl. I'M honestly, I hope it gets better for you because it cannot be easy. It cannot be easy at all. If you need to talk to me, you can send me a message: don't be shy to reach out reach out to me, and I can you know, answer any questions that you may have. I love you and I'm happy, though, I'm serving as I'm sort of light for you right now. I love you and your husband. You guys do not allow stereotypes to find your marriage. Ah, it's baby girl. We don't let stereotypes Define our life period like as much as you love people and you love watching them. Society has become a place where they just everybody is trying to do the same. You know it's making you not leave number one and number two you're not actually living your life like you're, not actually you're, leaving someone else's life, something you saw online, some image you have in your head from something you somehow have put in your mind: you're, not Actually letting your life play out does that make sense so learn to let your life play out, don't follow anything like don't even follow your parents, life that is so growing up just learn to accept. I was watching some Rhymes and people were saying or um the one day. Tattoo guys. You know they are bad guys, blah blah blah. If I had that mentality, I'm going in with these trivia's Place, concealer just want brightness. I try to go for those body. Uk girl books today, I'm going to add it there just for brightness. I don't know how I've given my husband, the chance so and I would have missed out a lot. I'M not saying gon na give everybody that starts with a chance. For, like trust me, you never know, you never know, don't let what Society say be how you live your life, be willing to break that requirement, be willing to say, okay. What, if let me try, it doesn't have to just be in finding love. To be honest in everything, there is what's a concept misconception people have about you. Obviously the regular one is on the smoke and I'll never even lie to you. I can't be a snob. Sometimes I can, but it's not sometimes well depends on the situation and, most of the time, just very warm and fuzzy or you're a human being, I'm a human being there's some days that are just not going right and I've had a few butterflies meet me on Those days and to them - and it's not because I didn't just want to answer like I - couldn't bring myself to deal with that in that moment because of what was going on in my real life. Well, of course, I won't be able to explain that to them. Now but yeah, I think they have a misconception. That means no and I'm not I'm a very warm teddy bear. Well, I have a Discerning spirit. So if I sense that you want to use me and do more more, then I can snub you, but then I can be. You know watching I'll, be what you think I am do you get, but that makes sense so yeah I'll be setting with this powder. I'Ve mixed this is from Zaron the Shea cruise and I poured in a piece of this younger Beauty, perfect powder you're, just going to see how beautiful they are going to look. Okay. What'S your favorite food, somebody asked if you've seen my Vlogs. You know a girl loves to cook. I love to throw it down in the kitchen. My favorite food is nothing. I mean I like a few Foods regular Nigerian food Spa. I don't think I have a favorite. I get too bored easily to eat something repeatedly and I'm happy that I'm able to be bold enough to explore new dishes in the kitchen. So yeah, I don't have the favorites okay um. Why did you do your NYC in katuna? It is. I was so upset when that thing came out, but it actually turned out to be nice at the end of the day I didn't have to worry about. Maybe if I had left to go somewhere for NYC, I would not have come back home to end up living till I got married, but I didn't have to bother looking for somewhere to rent for a while, and I just got comfortable with that. You know after setting my face like this, then I'm going to bake still with that same powder. How did you know you were in love with Mr M? I'Ve had a few videos where I answered this kind of questions for for the sake of 2023, I'm going to say I knew I was in love with him when I didn't have any single form of doubt. In my mind, like there was peace hundred percent p, a thousand I knew I was in love with him when I tried to look for doubt or fault, even praying and everything - and God was like nope you're - not going to go out of this one. This is the one for you and that's the way he acts the way he treats me the way he loves on me. You know so yeah, that's how I knew I was in love with him. I stopped talking to every other single guy on my oh, my like every guy that was toasting me that period. Even while we had not really defined our relationship when we're just still being friends and we didn't have sex immediately, so sex was off the table. That'S something I'll advise if you're trying to know if you love someone don't have sex with them immediately have fun. You know just get to know them. First of all, be friends before he becomes over hi. Another question, though, I would love to appreciate you for being an inspiration for me in the year 2022 anytime. I feel down. I just look up to you and say: Lydia has done it. I'M definitely going to do it plus I'm 15. wow you're. 15.. That'S amazing! I'M so proud of you yeah keep flying butterfly, keep flying proud of you, I'm using this for my Contour, this Pharmacy curl, the compact powder and I'm going to use this pencil to do my eyebrows as well. This pencil is from shop TD Beauty. It is amazing for eyebrows, like I'm going to take the same stuff I used to Contour, I'm just going to place it obviously there and just to blend that off in this powder. She said How To Love Yourself because she's finding it difficult to love herself, because she's plus size and she's trying to lose weight um. My one thing I'm going to say to you is: if you don't like how you look genuinely do something about it, go and walk out, stop eating so much. It might sound like harsh advice or I'm telling you from my own point of view. I was only able to even start seeing myself when I started choosing myself before. I would just throw anything into my body like it was garbage. I would just eat any, and everything like I literally did not know that was lactose intolera until I was like 26 from all my life and taking out Dairy from a major part of my of my eating and my skin cleared up before I used to have The most horrible breakouts horrible gluten farting, like my stomach, would not be clear. My armpits would smell horrible, it's bad. It was bad. So that's the first advice. Second advice, no matter the body you're in trust me, if your mind does not love you. If your brain does not see you and go ah you're so cute, because that's how my I've trained my brain to feel about me now, I started out by looking in the mirror and telling myself that I'm beautiful and really believe in it. This girl powder. I want to show you options just so: it's not arranging my local another butterfly actually asked about makeup feels so I just remembered now still interested in the mailbox Tales, because I have some makeups that have been used and some that are not used that I I Know can benefit someone in their makeup Journey, so let me know the same myself of my weeks. I said I was going to do this in 2012. I just you know. Life just happened. Well, if you want to see a video like that, let me know. Okay, this brush I'm using is from Vacaville all the brushes I use is from picado. I love them so much yeah um. So back to that butterflies question I was telling myself I'm beautiful. I'M going to read my daily affirmations that I kept saying on our comments down below, but just as I'm beautiful, my body is enough. I'M fearless I'm brave, I'm fearless, I'm brave I deserve to be here. I am beautiful. You know just talking to yourself in the mirror. Now I don't do it as much, because my brain is used to it, and my brain just knows that I'm a queen now, you know like before it was so difficult to convince myself to accept some of the compliments that my husband would pay me when I Was like yeah I'm That B, I am you know, so it's a process to love yourself the same way. You don't just fall in love with someone random surprisingly, so many people are not in love with themselves and that's why there's a lot of sadness going around. You know I'm using these same Essentials, blush addicts. This one is in the shade best dressed, and it is so pretty foreign. So yeah tell yourself that once you believe it don't stop saying it to yourself every single day of your life, bring it up. Tell it to yourself also asked about dating there's this video. I just recorded not just this, but it's on my channel. It'S um just uploaded. Rather is it just even weeks at this point actually so I'll leave it linked talks about basically just comparing my husband to my exes. He actually gave me the idea for that video. So if you want to know how I knew he was the one, the differences in the way he treated me and the way other men I had dated treated me that video is the best place to explain it for you. Okay, so get all this on that place, I'm just going to blend it in I'm not going to test it and literally that's how you get if well, this way, I'm not doing eyeshadow today, I'm using this facial spray, and since I did this before applying lashes And mascara and lipstick it's important. Okay, everything is Mira Cosmetics, pencil, honestly, I'm focused on the upper side. Well closing my eyes, so it's rubbing off on the lower side, I'm just taking a brush just depend out that shade of I literally do everything I'm doing for eyeshadow of the something this is actually like a character, I'm so different with getting into your eyes. For no reason for Lashes, I do believe I do be reusing my lashes y'all because I don't know I just don't know how to get rid of lashes. So, especially if I like them, these ones are from. I think V Beauty and foreign like really thick lashes and it looks so pretty on them and I used to love the clashes before I don't know because somehow now let me know what you think about this lashes because someone I feel like it's too much, I'm Going to try to power through and not switch it out. I have like this, where I stole my lashes, that you can always switch it out, for let me know what you think about these. Should I have one more subtle with the lashes. I think this powder from Tim Essentials. This is the brand I'm working with them, so you can kind of show up for me, okay, this is called naked. It'S like a highlighting powder, but not really so they look like you. Look like um they're, not doing too much with your highlight, I'm actually going to touch up the blush yeah, that's beautiful, brush a little bit. You have to be very little with these blushes, it's not so much from CSG and I really like it easy Q-tip. I really like it because it's very crazy, that's a highlighter right there, it's called So Glam, see I'm done with it. I have the back cover. I want to finish this one very well. Do you know what it is to finish highlighter to this day, I've been using this for almost two years now Non-Stop. That'S how I've gone to this finishing Stitch. Hmm, that's pretty same piece of ice for my brows, something that I've been relaxable for my glowy lips y wishful scroll. This lipstick is from vegan. Esther is church girl. That is cool that helped me not have ashy ribs, like you, that's bright, I'm going in with this one from drums. It'S like just an orangey. To be honest, you can even use your color corrector this brush is someone asks what are some of the things you've learned as a I'm using this regular gloss, I love it as a new bread, three patient and learning to manage the household, because I didn't know Anything about that, of course, a home would help. I hope I would choose washing clothes washing face at home with nothing compared to you are the woman of the house, all the decision making that your mom used to make is now your turn. You know nothing prepares. You for that, so you know I'm always going to be a glass girl, always my eyes look kind of empty, I feel, like I don't know, I want to add color there, I'm using this well palette from trivia from Huda, Beauty. Sorry, I'm going to take this brown color here, I'm just going to Define here I feel like if it is something pop out, my lid, more and Huda Beauty's Palace just packs pigments, because what is one swipe and look at how dark it has got in that Place so patience with my husband, patience to the fact that they'll always be here in the bathroom now, like literally I used to be so upset about coming here in the bathroom. Now I can say, come on you just got married with a lot just living with someone in your space in honestly is a very big transition. I don't think people talk about that, but thankfully we have a lot of should I do nude I'm going to take this color just a little bit. I need a little of them somewhere. Yeah. That'S pretty yeah see what I'm trying to tell you. Oh, please tell me without delete color with the lip color. Please there's no eyeshadow. Look it's not for me. I tried it. I can't I need eyeshadow. I need wow yeah, oh that's! So pretty I'm just sending to be any wife has been a lot. It has been the most fulfilling self-aware period of my life, I'm so grateful for the man. I ended up with you. This is beautiful, wow, the finish with my rules. Thank you for hanging out with me, so my love start completes the video. Thank you so much for hanging out with me definitely check out, love me here, their hairs hundred percent, like you can see it's so beautiful. I mean all of how beautiful I look right now and you saw how easy it was to install you hung out with me for the makeup. Let me know what your favorite part of the video was like pause right now. Go back to that scene comment. If it was something I said, I love to know what parts caught your eyes, the most butterflies watching. So let me know: I'm going to have love me as link down below they do ship to Nigeria and they use DHL and your hair will get to you ready to put on okay trust me, whatever style you get from them ready to put on. I promise you you have my word. Thank you so much for hanging out with me butterfly and welcome to 2023. I hope 213 brings you all your hearts desires every single one of them. I pray. 2023 is kind to all of us. I pray we find love if we're looking for love, fulfillment peace, happiness, joy, money, you know that will be dripping in the doors. Okay um, my perfume for the day is crescendio wood gotten from scent by beams, and I highly recommend smells like money smells like money. Honestly huh smells like you know so much butterflies for watching this video and for hanging out with me. I'M going to see you in my next video Leave Me video ideas. I want to feel more in 2023, like more of this kind of video. So leave me video ideas, I'm going to be taking notes, I'm going to be writing I'm going to be responding to you. I'M going to see you in my next video bye,