Don'T Be Ashamed To Wear Wigs For Protective Styles If You Feel Ugly With Your Natural Hair

Hey guys and welcome back to my channel on today's video, i wanted to tell you guys, don't be ashamed to wear wigs for protective styles. If you feel ugly with your natural hair there, i said i couldn't i'm reading for my phone, because the title was so long me and my friend was talking the other day and we talk about a lot of things, and one of the things we talked about Is our natural hair? She says she doesn't feel pretty when she wears her natural hair and she doesn't look pretty to herself when she wears her natural hair that is kind of common for a lot of natural hair women. We don't feel as pretty when we wear our natural hair now guys i have on the wig today i have on a wig today and yes, my hair is this length could be longer but yeah. I i get to a point sometimes where, when i wear my natural hair, i don't feel as pretty i feel ugly and a lot of women believe that if you wear your natural hair, you should automatically feel pretty. No, everybody doesn't feel pretty with natural hair. Everybody. Don'T look good with natural hair? Well, you should think you look good with your natural because, because that's what god gave you out your head? No, no! It doesn't mean that you mean to tell me i can't feel not attractive, because it's growing out of my head! No, not true so when i get into my modes to where i want to change my hair up and not because i feel ugly, i will, although i have 20 or 20 inches of hair or maybe a little bit more and i have a whole collection of Wigs and my followers have been following me - they know i like wigs, but does that make you feel pretty all the time to some people? Yes to some people know i feel pretty when i throw on a wii. I feel pretty when i wear my hair straight, but sometimes when i wear those two strand twists, i don't feel spreading. I'M going to be honest with you and i've said that in my videos, before i'm not ashamed to, say it. So whenever i want to wear a wig, i'm going to throw one on and i don't care about anything or anybody what they have to say about my hair. So now here's the season that fall is coming up and winter is coming up and you want to protect your hair. You want to wear wigs, but you're ashamed to do it because you think people are going to talk about you. Let me tell you they are going to talk about you, but it's up to you to tell them to go. Kick rocks with a open-toed shoe. Do you need confidence to wear a wig? You sure do because if you wear your wig outside of your house and people know you to have long hair or they know you have short hair or they know you have good hair or if you rock a different style. People are going to have something to say either going to love it or they're gon na hate it in most cases they i'm not gon na, say most cases. In my case, i get 50 50.. So i'll give an example. I posted this on my instagram and on my youtube page, but this red wig right here it was a show stopper, i wore it out friday night and people didn't even recognize who i was especially when i wore a mask around my mouth. I was saying: hey guys how you doing he's like hello, how you doing look at me like this and then i'll pull down my mask and say: hey it's angel and it's like girl. What are you doing? You already recognize you without with all that hair on your head, so a lot of the girls like a lot of the guys liked it too, but my ex-boyfriend was there and he said. Can i ask you something, i said sure going to ask me what is this is the most infamous question: why do you wear? Why do you have on that wig when you already have hair? First of all, what the hell is it to you? Let'S get that out there, so this is what i said to him, because i want to oh that was in that conversation with me why, as well, wear a wig if i have long hair already, why else? Why? Where we - because i want to, i don't - have to explain to anybody why i wear my wig. You have to have confidence when you wear weave and the reason why i say this because you're going to have those naysayers on the sideline. Looking at you outside the eye, like shay, does, which is my dog people going to criticize criticize you because you're doing something that you want to do now? Where does this confidence come from? Confidence comes from within a lot of us are not born that way. A lot of us are not bred that way. I wasn't born a confident person. I was born more of a uh, i was introverted and my feelings would be hurt because of what people said, and i realized that, as i got older around nine or ten years old, when i tried to commit you know when i tried to uh sue, you Know i tried to i tried to when i was a kid and when i did that that was the day i realized wait, a minute. Why are you doing this to yourself when it's people are the ones that's making? You feel this way now you're, probably saying: how can you, how can you think that when you let yourself go in the pool, while i was trying to make myself drown, i was going down to the bottom of the pool on the way down. That'S those are the things i was thinking that quick, i said, wait a minute. I don't really want to do this. How can i be accepted by people and i swam to the top, and i said you know what forget people, that's how i became confident as of today, because if you, if you, if you think about it, your confidence level usually comes from i'm gon na say. Usually because i didn't do any research i'll just say a lot of the times, it comes from people around you how they make you feel when they don't make. You feel good, but when i realized i wanted to because people in my life was making me feel less than like my grandfather, my mother grandmother all these people, the boys at school, because i'm very, very weird, i'm a weird person, i'm goofy and i'm out rages At times to some people, and that comes off as being weirdos in a reject and i've heard somebody say well, you know a lot of the times when youtubers come on youtube and make youtube videos it's because they have been socially outcasted, they're weird and they don't Fit in with people - and i can see that to be true in a certain sense um, but no, i i did youtube because i thought i can offer some uh tips on how to grow your hair plus. I wanted to learn how to grow my own hair um, but yeah people in your life are the ones who make you can make you possibly feel that you don't have any confidence. So when i realized that i was like wait a minute, the only reason why i feel like this is because of the people in my life there's nothing wrong with me. I am not dumb, i am pretty. I don't have bad hair, i'm not weird in a bad way. I'M not uh goofy in a strange way, i'm me, and so today, at 50 i'll be 51 on october. 4Th. You can't tell me nothing. That'S going to make me feel any other way than the way than than the way i make myself feel. I feel good about the things i do. If i don't feel good about, i just won't, do it no more, but what is the purpose of you asking somebody? Why do you wear wigs when you have hair? They ain't got to have a reason to wear a wig to you know to please you why, especially if you marry this guy he's married now, i told you guys - i told you about this - this guy in another video before, but i don't have to. I don't have to worry about the way you feel about my hair. So when people ask you, why do you wear wigs when you have hair? Why do you wear a wig, they're, really saying they're really sad, i don't like that wig. I don't like that. You wear wigs and i feel like you should take it off. You shouldn't wear it because i don't like it and naturally as humans, we are very judgmental. We cannot stop judging people, that's what we do. Naturally, i know somebody want to say: well, you know i don't judge nobody use a damn lie you're lying. We do that. Naturally i do it um. I can't say that i don't do it. I do judge and i'll be looking at people like. Why do you got that on your head? It looks like you got a biscuit on top of your head, but you know people like what they like. They are who they are and that's my answer because i wanted to that's who i am. I don't have to not wear my. I don't have to always wear my hair in order to suffice you, especially when you go home to your wife, especially when i especially if i know you're, going to be on the other side of town, and i'm not going to see you again for another eight Or nine years, what difference does it make? Naturals will do that to you in a minute same night, the uh natural, big old, pretty curly, hair um. She told me that, well my one of my buddies she likes to brag on me. She says you know what um angel's very smart, she's she's very resourceful. She likes to research. She knows a lot of stuff, she has a youtube channel and so uh the other co-worker. She, because that's why i went to a co-workers party and she had a big old, pretty curly fro and she said: well, you know um. What do you do on your youtube channel? I said well, what i do is i i am showing people how i grow. My hair and how to retain length so she said: well, you can re, you know. Why do you have on that wig? I said because i like wigs and she said well, if my and my friends showed her my my video how long my hair was so she said. Well, if you know i feel like, if you got, if you got all that long hair, then why do you have to wear a wig cause? I don't i don't have to wear a wig, so she said well, why don't you wear your real hair? I said i do want to wear my real hair, but that's not what she was really saying. If you have natural hair, you shouldn't want to have on a wig. That'S how people think they think your thoughts. Their thoughts should be your thoughts. No i'm wearing my hair. I wear this hair. I wear whatever hair. Whatever hair i got in my stash. I put it on my head because i don't i'm like six ducks. I don't give a f. You know what i'm saying i do. What i want to do so she went on to say. Well, you know, i said i mainly wear wigs when i want to do protective styling and to change my look so she said well, uh you don't! Your hair will grow automatically. Your hair grows on its own. I said yes, that's true, and she said well something about genetics. If your hair's not going to grow a certain length, i mean your hair will grow a certain length. It'S not going to get! No longer that that's not true. I didn't start having this length of hair until i was in my 40s, almost 50.. I didn't get this length of hair until i was almost 50 years old and she had asked me. She said when you started here. What wasn't your hair long already? Yes, it was shoulder length, but my hair never grew past shoulder length, and so she said well well, you know your hair is not going to grow no longer than what you really your hair's not going to grow any longer than when it's naturally supposed to do. That'S not true, i said that's not true, and then i showed this on my videos she's, like oh okay, she said well, i wear my hair out because i appreciate my hair. I do too and my um. I said the reason why my hair got to be no. I said the reason. The main reason why i wore protective styles, because i'm not on a hair journey anymore. It'S because i wanted to retain maximum length maximum length and people think that you know i can wear my hair out and keep the same type of hair growth. Yes, you can, you can wear your hair out with the same type of hair growth, cannothing! Stop your hair from growing. Unless something happens, you know it has to be a reason why your hair is not growing. But yes, that's true, you can still wear your hair out and it will grow, but the key is: are you going to retain the length see people get confused with protective styles and hair growth? Those are two different things. That'S not that's not the same thing. If your hair grows doesn't mean your hair is going to get longer than normal, because you're always doing something to it, so she tells me well i go to the beauty shop and i let my stylist trim my hair every six weeks and that's how i maintain This pretty uh, that's how i maintain the health of my hair. I said well, i i trim mine once a year and i that's how i got the length that i got so you mean to tell me if you don't, if you don't wear your hair out, you retain more length pretty much. I said because i know what you i know what's happening with your hair, you because she wears her hair out of afro. Now she wasn't her, so i know that at the end of the day, when you got your hair out, you twisting it up. At the end of the night - and you are separating like this, you can hear your hair snapping apart and then you twisting it back up and every day when you get up in the morning, do the same thing and nice time doing the same thing. That'S why you have to get your hands trimmed more often than i do, and she was like. Oh okay, you got it so hair growth and length retention. Those are two different categories. That ain't got nothing to do with the other one. Well, it does have something to do with it, but it's not the main thing. Okay. So if you want to retain maximum length, retaining keeping the hair that you did grow, then you will wear protective styles now. Can your hair still grow? Yes, it can but you're going to get your ends, trimmed more often and less trimming that you have for your hair, the more length you retain right, so she finally got it but like, but getting to the point of wearing wigs and making yourself feel pretty. If you feel like you, want to wear a wig to make yourself feel pretty, then that's okay, i felt so pretty with my friday night wig. Can nobody tell me nothing and i'm gon na keep on wearing my stuff, and i am not. I don't have to care about what people think about me, because when i care about people what they think about me, it keeps it keeps my self-esteem level up. It keeps my confidence level up. So if i walk in the room, my body language says i'm confident now with lizzie. I don't have confidence. How do you gain it if you're, so i'm a person who's very concerned about what people think about me, then what i can tell you is: if you want to wear a wig and you and you have people around you who don't like you wearing wigs, then You know you, you either need to get new people in your life or wear your wigs out where people don't know you and you feel good or be around people who make you feel good. That'S that's the key about confidence being around people who make you feel good being around people who keep you uplifted positive. I'M gon na tell you something uh i had one buddy baby. Her makeup was atrocious. It wasn't atrocious in her mind, it was pretty to me, it was not she would put on like say for she say. For instance, she has on a red shirt if she has on a red shirt, she's going to wear red eyeshadow from the bottom lid. Here all into her eyebrows, with glitter no eyebrow pencil to kind of like shape the face and frame it. No uh mascara, no eyeliner, no blush, no lipstick. I just wear a chapstick girl. Your face is so unbalanced to me if she has on blue she's, going to wear blue eyeshadow from here on up that ain't. My thing to me that looks weird to her. It looks good, so am i going to make her feel like you know what you got the wrong type of look going on with your face and you ain't you 60 plus now this ain't, no youngin. Now you think, i'm going to tell her your eyeshadow is busted. You look crazy in the mofo. No, that's how she feels. That'S how she feels confident with her look. That'S her look, so i'm not going to criticize it because i enjoy being with her. You know some people are so critical about other people in their way. If we all had the same mind, i've said this a few other times in my video. If we all thought the same, we would have the same brain. It is impossible for us to all think alike. I had got to tell me um when i was i, if you guys don't notice, my weight goes up and down they've. Always it has always gone up and down, and when i was really skinny i would get really skinny. If i gained some weight i would get a little heavier now now, i'm just he's just obese, okay uh, i'm like in my 20s, maybe possibly early 30s. So i kept my weight down and if i felt like i was getting overweight, i'd hit the gym and i'll lean it up. So i look good in my swimsuits. I look good in my clothes. I felt good when i had my weight a certain way and one of my co-workers old man he's he's deceased. Now he wasn't cute. Nothing about him was attractive. He was married, you know, like a child monk, they got caught in a tree from a hurricane harold's. All like just shaped in a box, and he had these funny looking eyes, he was very, very unattractive. Did i tell him, hey you, the ugly mofo you look like a chipmunk that got caught up in a hurricane. I was stuck in that tree. Did i say that no, when i talk to him, i feel like hey we're having a conversation, i'm not here to judge you. Let'S have a conversation, although i think you look like a chipmunk stuck in a hurricane uh, so he gon na tell me we were walking. We would walk into our cars one day after work. You know what i don't like you that skinny. You know what i told that food. I said i ain't for you. This don't belong to you, no damn way what the hell you talking about. Oh i'm, sorry, i'm sorry! You know, why are you? Why are you putting your judgment on me because you feel like i'm too skinny? What difference does it make? I don't go home with you, foo, don't even know your last name. I don't what you talking about we're not gon na ever get together, because you look funny to me and that's when i was younger, now see now this age, uh yeah, i fire back, you you, you cut. My dog i'ma cut your cat. You fire off at me, i'm gon na fire back off uh. Do i do it all the time no uh will i if i feel like i needed to yeah, i will i don't care, you don't care about my feelings. I don't care about. Yours. Don'T sit up there and tell me you don't like how skinny i am because you're not attracted to me, i'm not for you. No damn way, my wigs are not for you no way. What i do to myself is for me. Well, nazi. You know what, if you feel like that, you're going to end up by yourself? No i'm not especially when it comes to these men. I know a lot of women do a lot of things specifically to please their man or uh their woman, and they feel like well, since my man and my woman don't like it, i don't need to like it either, but who are you living for you living For you are you living for your uh, your spouse or your girlfriend or your boyfriend? What about you a lot of times we put ourselves on the back burner because we want to. We want to please the next person. No, this is what i like some things. I'M just not going to stop do. Do it, i'm going to do some things that i like to do. If i like wearing a wig, i'm going to wear them like my uh one of my ex-boyfriends, we were dating and he said i don't like wigs. I don't like women who wear high heel shoes because he's not that tall, hey. My damn father was born short, i'm gon na wear my heels. I'M gon na wear my wigs we're not getting married, no way you wan na know. We you wan na know why we ain't getting married because you are separated from your wife. Technically, you are still married, which i would never do that again. Ladies, i'm telling you right now, if you are involved with a man that is separated not even legally separated, whatever kind of separated if they are separated, they are still connected to that woman they and they still be sneaking around sleeping with them. I should tell y'all about that story: yeah yeah, because guess what they have a connection with them, although they're not uh in a good space at that time, they're still connected legally emotionally and physically. So you think i'ma stop wearing my wigs because you don't like them. I'Ma, stop wearing my high heel shoes because you're short and you feel like i shouldn't, wear it because you're short, that's your problem! So when people tell you, i don't like your wigs, it's their problem, it's because they don't like it. They don't want you wearing it, because that's what they feel, i'm not gon na. Stop being me because of how you feel, because the last time i tried to stop being me, i almost died. I can't risk myself for somebody else, and people say all the time when you know what you're selfish and you know what i tell them. I ain't got no problem with that. One of my babies told me recently she said well nancy you're, not selfish, you're self-preserved, and i said you know what you show right. I am self-reserved because people will keep you in a place where they think you should be and when you feel like they are right, then you're going to stay stuck in that place where they want you, where they think you should be you're, not going to feel Good about yourself, i can't risk myself. I can't risk my mental self over how somebody feels about me. Not my problem, that's yours! So if i want to wear a wig and i got 20 inch hair already with my hair straight - i'm going to wear it. If i feel like, i wan na, feel pretty in a different type of way, i'm gon na wear my wigs. If i feel like i wan na, be pretty in my natural hair, i'm gon na wear my natural hair. If i feel like i'm gon na be pretty with my hair straight, i'm gon na wear my hair straight. If i want to put color in my hair to make myself feel pretty i'm going to do it, i'm going to do whatever it takes to make me feel pretty, and whoever in the back can stay in the back, then go kick rocks. I ain't got time to be trying to fit in with people who don't accept me for who i am now does this? Does it mean that if i'm in a relationship, i need to go against the grain all the time? No, it does not, but some things i'm not going to fall back on, i'm not going. I'M not going, i'm not going to waver and teeter on the i'm not going back and forth with some suckers on some stuff, i'm just not gon na. Do it. I'M just not gon na do it because i put myself first, yes, i am selfish, but i am happy and i am willing to not have certain people around. That'S another thing. People feel like you know what nazi i don't want to lose. My um my relationship over no weave or no wigs or anything, then, if you put that other person in front of you, i understand that i understand you, you don't want to lose your relationship. You put my glasses back on. I feel pretty with my glasses on. Are these prescription? I think they are cause. I can see that i don't want to. If i don't lose my relationship, i will make some adjustments in my life to make that work, but in the end the core view will never change. People will say you know what you can change, no you can't the core of you is who you are by the age of 10 by the age of seven. If you decide to make some changes, it's because you want to work on something in that area day by day, because guess what if you come across, something that will spike you to act, a certain way you're going to be that way? Okay, not saying you see you made me go back to how i used to be. No. That was always you. You just chose not to do it. No more! You just chose to keep that under wrap. Like me, i don't cuss folks out as much as i've been off work, but there are triggers that will get me there. Just like recently i had to you know i would i just flew the coop. Am i like this every day nope, but certain triggers hey? I'M going to revert back to who i am i'm going to cut you out, don't come at me crazy. If you don't want to get cussed out simple. Well, you need you need to stop doing it. No! No! No! No! You need to go on you. Don'T like what i'm doing then go on out. That'S why i live by myself, guys! That'S why i do a lot of things by myself. That'S why i call myself a soloist because me trying to let people interfere with what i'm doing will wear me down, bring out insecurities uh mess with my confidence. If you get to the point where you get to that, if you get to that point in my life that you have an effect on my well-being, you guys to go period, i can't live everybody else's life in their opinions. This. These are my opinions. So if i feel like, i want to wear a wig, i am going to do so. If i feel pretty about wearing a wig, i am going to do so and i am not going to be ashamed about it. If i feel ashamed about something it's because i don't like it, and i did something to myself, not because somebody else i can't i cannot. I cannot do that. So i'm telling you guys if you feel like you, want to wear a wig. This fall this winter. Next spring next summer, because you feel, like you feel ugly, then you wear your wig, you wear it if you feel prettier with a um with your hair, buzzed or really cut short cut, your hair off is: are you gon na get some slack from other people? Yes, can you handle it? That'S that's your call uh but, like i said, be around people who makes you feel good and yeah. That'S all. I have to say about that. All right, guys, i'm sorry! I went on this little rant. I'Ve been talking for 27 minutes. They say, but chances are when i get through editing this video. It won't be that long be you do do, who you want to do be, who it is, who you want to be you be, i could be whoever i want to be every day you can't come in my house. Tell me what to do in my house. That'S why i stay that's. Why i stay by myself and i got. I got quirky little ways. I'M gon na tell you this. Don'T let you guys go, i i don't like putting my groceries away when i come home from work from when i come home from the grocery store. I mean not for home for work. I don't even work anymore, but when i come home from the grocery store, i hate putting groceries away. So you know what i do i take. I take all my groceries. That'S in the bag and put in my refrigerator it drives people crazy, but i stay by myself. I do what i want to do and when i'm ready to go and take those groceries out i'll, take them out uh. Lately i've been taking the groceries out as soon as i come home, i'll, take them out the bag and then take all the food for the refrigerator. But if i don't feel like i'll put it right in the refrigerator, that's crazy. I know it's crazy, but i live by myself. I can be crazy. I can be quirky all right guys, so i hope you enjoyed this video. If so make sure you click the thumbs up and i'll see you guys in the next video bye you