Can I Touch Your Hair? | Black Women | One Word | Cut

no name: Im only 11 years old and all of my friends ask me that question like EVERY day. I don't blame them. They don't know what it feels like to have black hair. But when they say to me " Zizi your hair is so fluffy I wish I had your hair!" I feel special and proud of what type of hair I have. Before I wished I had long silky hair. But now.......I LOVE MY HAIR AND I WILL ALWAYS LOVE MY HAIR

K Bear: I have mixed race cousins and they have gorgeous Afro hair, when we were children we used to play with each other's hair because we were fascinated with the texture difference. I think it's just curiosity majority of the time, but people should learn that it can be irritating and invading people's personal space.

Paris Monet: As a kid everyone wanted to touch my hair and I loved the attention. But as I got older it started to become dehumanizing because random people were just petting me all the time.

Cookies Msp: Before someone asked me this question and I said no, then I touched my hair (afro) and they Iegit said, "How come your aIIowed to touch your hair?" -I'm finished.

Addison Clarke: Before you type a response to this, just because this question doesn't personally offend you when asked, doesn't mean that it can't and doesn't offend others - specifically others who are made to feel different in many other aspects of their lives by virtue of not being a part of the majority demographic.

Anita Norris: I don't like when people always ask me this question but at this point, it's better than people reaching over and just helping themselves to invading my personal space. I've had customers at my job just reach over. When did that become okay?

TheNoobPube: its not offensive its just anoying

Carli Smith: "Most people say nah, but you can touch mine hey!!" Cute ☺️

witch, please: I dont mind people asking. But I *do* mind people sticking their hands in my hair without permission or so much as a word. Yes, it happens.

Shanel P: My freshmen year of high school I wore my hair in a afro. Mind you I go to a school where it's not a lot of black people and I was like the only and still am the only black girl at my school who wears their 4c/kinky hair proudly. So this Argentinian girl in my band class ask me if she can touch my hair. So, I'm like fine everyone has been touching my hair all day. She decided to put pencils and pens in my hair to see if they would stay in their. That mad me a little upset to the point that I don't let people touch my hair as much. Just because I give you an inch doesn't mean you take a mile.

Jenn Lyman: I don't think I could ever be able to ask a person this question. It just seems so invasive, and I wouldn't want a stranger to put their hands on me . Don't get me wrong, I understand being curious about texture and bout anything different from yourself. In fact I encourage my children to be curious, but not to overstep boundaries.

TaiLand: I had a co worker (who was white) she asked me once if she could touch my hair. I told her she could and ever since then it was downhill from there. She would touch my hair without asking me, and a few times she would pat my hair and be like "its just soon fluffy" like girl....if you don't go away. Vanish. I personally don't mind it i just need to be asked first each time.

Yewande: My hair is usually in long twists. The questions start out as "how long does it take?" which is fine. But then they touch without asking. I've had a lady run from across the other side of a store inside of a mall just to touch my hair. It's very frustrating and awkward.

Glass Tower Tarot: I'll be in school and people will co.e up and touch my hair without even asking. I hate that

Julia Chernov: The women in this video by the way are absolutist gorgeous. All of them ❤️❤️❤️

Aja Moore: People aren't even polite enough to ask me

laila jones: *I’m in 7th grade, and I go to a white school. These girls at my school always touch my hair. It freaking annoys me, every single time I get braids and individuals they always randomly come over to me and start touching my hair. It’s disgusting when people go and dig there fingers in your hair. I get my hair done in braids about 6 hours. As soon as I go to school the next day, these white girls touch my hair and start asking, is it fake??? is it real??? are you wearing horse hair???? the fuck bitch. it’s not horse hair*

sir this is a wendy’s drive thru: I like how she said it was a learning moment. As long as people are being respectful, I think it's awesome to let them learn about your culture.

KK: Haha yes! this is so true! I've been asked a couple of times but mostly people just touch my hair.. it's soo weird!! I agree, the hand is as close as you need to be these women are great! love these videos!

Cesia C: 1:11 Love her perspective. I believe that curiosity is the door for understanding. I also understand that personal space is important. When I been asked, "Can I touch your hair?" I smile and let them touch it for a moment, and afterward, I start a conversation with the individual.

Roxa S: For 2 years I worn my hair in a protective hair style bun on the top of my head in an effort to go natural. My hair was now so healthy that I decided to wear it out in a big curly Afro. On the way to work I stopped to buy coffee and a lady reached out to touch my hair, but I dramatically ducked out of her reach while saying "Ooooh no no no"....and I stared at her...and I held the stare. Then I turned my back on the lady, smiled at the cashier, paid for my coffee and left. When I got to work I was ready. Someone reached out to touch my hair and I screamed. People ran over to my cubical and asked what was wrong. I told them "I saw her reaching out towards me and it scared me." She never tried shit again. Then there is the time when someone asked me “Is that your real hair.” I responded, “Oh, O-K. Quid Pro Quo...Let’s play. Are those your real teeth?”

ZoeTheZurtle: Whenever I get asked this I just say, "Well can I yours?" If they say sure than I'm totally cool with it, and I'll definitely touch their hair as well xD

シKamora: I'm mixed race and I have really nice curly hair. I don't mind when people touch it cause I kind if like the attention. Plus, they'll always say things like "I wish I had your hair !!" And that always makes me feel good. I even have a friend who constantly asks to touch it and then apologizes right after lmaoo. Personally, I think people are just curious and want to see what it's like. However, we're all different and if you dont want other people touching your hair that's ok !!

Lorraine: I'm 59 and have only had 2 people in my life ask me that question. They were both Asian women; one actually being in Asia when I traveled there. She said to a friend with great excitement, "I touched her hair!" I just smiled. I said yes to both requests to touch my hair. I'm sure other ethnicities get asked that question too, if their hair is unique to them in some way, like if a woman's hair is so long, it goes down to her knees, for instance. And as a black woman, my hair is dry as I just wash and dry without adding any oils or grease to it, so they don't have to worry about having oily fingers when they touch my natural hair. lol!

Kathryn J: I get it, people like touching fabulous things, and my hair is fabulous. It's not offensive or even that annoying if it's my friend that's asking to touch my hair, it's when strangers do it and that's when it's weird and inappropriate.

Ifeanyi: When people of other races ask to touch my hair, I allow them. To me, it's totally understandable for someone to be curious about hair. It's​ not a big deal. If I saw a totally different hair texture on someone, I'd be curious too.

I Just Changed My Name: When it does happen, people usually just touch it without asking. I take a lot of pride in my hair. I love how it looks and it’s something people associate with me (it’s really big and very curly). I’m also someone who will touch someone else’s hair. So I don’t mind but I could see why people would mind. ‍♀️

Supreme3hunna Ssr: If someone has interest or admiration for your hair you’re free to say no but you don’t have to reach as far as to make it a race thing not everything has to be a social issue.

Jem And the Holograms: Personally, I can see why some said no, but it made me happy to see those who said yes. I, someone who has naturally beach waved hair, love getting to learn about other peoples! If I ask someone to touch their hair, I want them to know its because i want to learn. I genuinely learn through hands on experience. If I ask someone, I swear its not me trying to be rude, but its me trying to learn and enjoy it! if someone were to ask me to touch my hair, I would likely say yes.

Michael: I can remember asking one lady I used to work with if I could touch her hair. She said yes, and I still couldn’t bring myself to touch it because I felt as if I would’ve been invading her space. I’ve never asked that question again. Now that I’ve seen this video, I will NEVER ask anyone else. It is however absolutely fascinating for hair to look as if it’s maybe 6-8 inches long, and yet I’ve watched young women take a strand and cause it to stretch out an EXTRA 6-8 inches Black hair is beautiful Please don’t be ashamed of your hair, and never be afraid to tell anyone “no” Your space is more important than someone else’s entertainment.

Maddie Storms: This reminds me of when I went to El Salvador and all the kids pet my hair because they had never seen red hair before. It was so cute, I didn't know it offended people that they were curious about hair. I've always wanted to touch that Afro hair people have but I don't know anyone with it. I want to feel the texture so bad. Like is it really thick? Does it get snarly easy? So cool!

Nazaya Williams: I love when people ask before they actually just go touch it cause I love how they are amazed by the beauty of natural hair but it is rude to just go up to someone and just touch it but I'm fine if you look clean and want to touch it for the feeling of texture :)

Mak Morgan: All of these ladies are so beautiful, I love watching these videos they're inspiring and interesting.

rebecca tegtmeier: it's funny, because I've also had that kind of experience, even though I have blonde hair! I was in Africa, and people often asked me to touch my hair, but I was just pretty flatred, so I always said yes. Of course I know it's not the same, I just wanted to share a story.

V C: I'm Mexican with a lot of curly, thick, natural hair and I often get ask the same. I always say yes because just seeing their faces how curious and excited they want to feel it, makes me smile. It's all good with me. ❤ I respect everyone's decisions tho. ❤

Ruby Lopez: when i first asked this question it was from legitimate curiosity, and the person allowed me to and then they told me why they don't get offended. this world is made up of such diverse people, with different cultures, skin, hair, languages, different ways of loving and laughing.. and i understand how people feel and what not, but embrace your differences, let people know these differences, show these differences.. keep these differences alive because that is what makes every human being unique, and it is the only thing keeping the world beautiful along with many other things. the us especially is such a diverse country, continuously growing each day, and soon these differences will still be alive hopefully it will just become a much normal thing to see

Dearbhla NíChiaráin: I would never ask but I love that some people say yes and like it, I admire the way black women style their hair and I find it so interesting how different it is it's so beautiful

Monica: I get their points but like me, I'm just curious especially since I don't have that type of hair. In no way is that meant to be rude or offend anyone, it's unique! Embrace it ladies/guys ☺️

SuqqMayLiftKnutt6.9: When I wear my natural hair out people always give me compliments and say “Your hair is really pretty”. And when I say “Thankyou” they take that as a gesture to touch my hair. It gets very annoying because they feel like I owe them a whiff of hair because they gave me a simple compliment‍♀️. It’s to a point now that I get ready to scrap every time someone compliments my hair out of fear that they are going to make an attempt to touch it‍

Jennifer Charles: It's totally cool with me. I'm as curious about your hair as you are of mine. It's human nature to be curious. People feeling so sensitive about it are just holding in to negativity. It should be the time of age where we can touch each other's hairs without immediately thinking back to the old days. All I ask is that you ask to touch it. To just touch is rude. That's my thoughts on it...

i identify as hoe: I like these kinds of videos. I'm always so awkward when I'm around new people because I'm constantly afraid to offend anyone - what I don't want to. I don't like the fact that I can't know what other people think or feel and end up talking to hardly anyone . I'm sure these videos won't make me more outgoing but they just give some… affirmation that I am doing alright :)

Alicia Jo: Personally I love my hair being touched or played with. I have really short hair and it feels cool, plus I like people touching my hair or playing with it. I tend to assume other people feel the same way. So if I've ever asked (obviously only someone I'm close to) "can I play with/braid your hair" and it's offended you I am deeply sorry. and please know it had literally nothing to do with your race or if your hair is considered "different"

SparkleandPop: It's never even crossed my mind to want to touch someone's hair.... I mean it looks awesome, but I don't need to touch it to admire the beauty of it.

A TRIBE CALLED KUSZ: My question is why? Lol I don’t get it... “oh does it grow out curly? “Lmao I don’t understand the fascination with black hair. I don’t walk up to Asians or Caucasian’s to touch their hair.

Ms Ch.: Most of the people don't even ask. Like feeling your hair getting pulled on the bus cause someone got curious if its real or not.

awesomeness gina: I love letting people touch my hair cause its funny to see their reactions to the hair oil all over their hands

R V: "my hair is fabulous" I LOVE IT

vashti: I'll be honest. I'd love to one day touch African hair. I think it's natural to be curious. And I believe that there is beauty in all skin tones and hair textures. ❤

Roxa S: For 2 years I wore my hair in a protective hair style bun on the top of my head in an effort to go natural. My hair was now so healthy that I decided to wear it out in a big curly Afro. On the way to work I stopped to buy coffee and a lady reached out to touch my hair, but I dramatically ducked out of her reach while saying "Ooooh no no no"....and I stared at her...and I held the stare. Then I turned my back on the lady, smiled at the cashier, paid for my coffee and left. When I got to work I was ready. Someone reached out to touch my hair and I screamed. People ran over to my cubical and asked what was wrong. I told them "I saw her reaching out towards me and it scared me." She never tried shit again. Then there is the time when someone asked me “Is that your real hair.” I responded, “Oh, O-K. Quid Pro Quo...Let’s play. Are those your real teeth?” What’s weird is when I lived overseas no one was interested in touching anyone’s hair.

Roxa S: For 2 years I worn my hair in a protective hair style bun on the top of my head in an effort to go natural. My hair was now so healthy that I decided to wear it out in a big curly Afro. On the way to work I stopped to buy coffee and a lady reached out to touch my hair, but I dramatically ducked out of her reach while saying "Ooooh no no no"....and I stared at her...and I held the stare. Then I turned my back on the lady, smiled at the cashier, paid for my coffee and left. When I got to work I was ready. Someone reached out to touch my hair and I screamed. People ran over to my cubical and asked what was wrong. I told them "I saw her reaching out towards me and it scared me." She never tried shit again. Then there is the time when someone asked me “Is that your real hair.” I responded, “Oh, O-K. Quid Pro Quo...Let’s play. Are those your real teeth?”

Spiqen: I have always wondered about this when watching american videos. Nice to know the reason and I would probably also feel awkward if it was not a friend, family, partner or hairdresser. But on the other hand, I love the feeling, like getting a massage.

Grace Rogers: People used to ask me this all the time, and I'm so glad this doesn't happen to me anymore. Although now its been replaced by "I love you hair!!! It's so fun!!!" Meanwhile its my biggest insecurity and something I hate about myself.

funky_armadillos: I've had really colorful hair for the past 7 years of my life, and people have always asked to touch my hair. I never thought of it as annoying or offensive. I just liked that other people were getting something out of touching my hair. I never even considered that it might offend someone, so who knows how many people I have unintentionally offended. oops....

Leslie Wheeler: I love people touching my hair! I teach ESL abroad and in my opinion, it's a great opportunity to give someone the chance to learn about a different hair type. My students here in Turkey absolutely adore my hair! I believe it's a positive, small step towards making a real change in redefining what beauty really is; differences and self-acceptance make us beautiful.

Chelsey Kirsten: I get asked this all the time cause my hair is big and curly. I once was having an annoyed day cause it was my first day of the semester and everyone saw my hair for the first time. This one girl asked to touch it and I said that find but you have to sanitize your hands first and she looked SO offended

Shae Price: I thought it was cool that there was a range of different responces in the video. It is so accurate. I know my response changes given the day, the person, and how detangled my hair is lol.

P. Rourke: I love this series, however if I should point out something it would be that, filming with people with darker skin should involve different techniques than filming with lighter-skin people. The orange/brown background against brown skin and the dim lighting was a bit too much - unless that was the intention, in which case disregard this. I find that cool colours (for the background) works best for dark skin and lighting is REALLY important - it should be bright and diffused otherwise, the resulting image can look quite suffocating.

Xenia Tombrou: The very first time in my life when I met a person of African descent, I was about 13. I lived on a Greek Island my whole life and of course I had seen tourists and African American Marines but I had never ever had spoken, had a drink, or just sat next to a person who was not white. So yes, when I met a woman who was black, I asked her tons of questions: What makeup she used (dark toner that I couldn't use and the lipstick surprised me, it was very bright), if she would get burned by the sun (the answer was; yes.... Stil boggles me!) AND YES! The very first woman I met with that amazing hair, I asked If I maybe could touch her hair..... So, if an ignorant little girl, who has not seen ANYTHING of the world yet and was always closed into the edges of a white island, let her touch your hair and please answer all her stupid, crazy, stereotyping questions. You are THE ONLY ONE who can crash those stereotypes, make her a better person! I also got the courage to speak to Christian, a Nigerian Igbo who I always found scary; he is extremely tall and big and he sells CDs on the street of Corfu. He is such a nice person and I would have never known!

lady finn: I come from an extremely white background in the Nordic countries, so when I moved abroad to a much more diverse country and I became really good friends with this awesome black lady, I asked if I could feel the texture of her hair. She immediately answered "if I can feel yours!" which was a little surprising, but I felt like it was 1000% fair. Apparently I was pretty much the only person that had agreed to do a... mutual hair texture feeling. :P She had no idea what really straight hair felt like, and I didn't have a clue how her hair was. It was a really nice bonding experience too, and we had a good discussion about how black women and men get these kinds of questions and how it feels like :)

Jasmin O: People ask to touch my hair because its super thick and I'm completely okay with it. Sometimes someone might want to touch your hair because they think it's really nice or maybe because it's just different from theirs. I don't think it's an insult (unless in certain situations)

Lily Rain: As a white girl with really long blonde hair, I can honestly say that African American women aren't the only ones that have to deal with this. Girls are constantly asking to play with, or braid my hair. Some don't even ask. I see it as a compliment, I also love my hair, but it does get annoying.

Elizabeth: I say yes just because am so proud of my curls. For a whole 25 yrs i hated my natural hair until one day i decided to accept myself and love me. Now i have a full head of curls and i cant get over how much i love them !!!! Wish i wouldve accepted my natural hair earlier.

Lupe Jelena: I have pink hair now and have had people ask me if they could touch it. It's fine by me. I'm proud of my hair :D

Obi-Wan Kenobi: I don't think there's anything wrong with just asking. It comes from a place of curiosity. If you're a white person you don't have any experience with a black person's hair and you just want to know what it feels like.  In regions with majority black populations they do the same thing to white people and it's fine because it comes from a place of curiosity. Like I remember when I was a kid and when a class man hot shaved bald we all wanted to know what their head felt like when it was smooth or prickly from all the short hairs. I think it's the same thing with people wanting to know what other ethnicities' hair feels like. Like you should obviously ask for permission to touch it and only do it if they say yes. You're not entitled to anything and it's their hair. And don't ask incessantly either and be mindful that they might get this question a lot, but as long as you are considerate and they are fine with it, it's ok. I know an African American guy and someone asked to touch his dreadlocks. I was a little bit confused because I thought it was racist to touch someone else's hair. But he said there was nothing wrong with it, they just wanted to know what it felt like. And if he's cool with it, I don't see anything wrong with just asking for the sake of curiosity.

MadamFenris: The question itself isn't offensive. If someone asks to touch my hair, I usually say yes. What's offensive is when they just REACH WITHOUT ASKING FOR PERMISSION.

Kyoumi masu: The lady at 1:20 yes! Learning moments are a good way to look at things! As an asian, I don't really get asked of people if they can touch my hair a lot, but I don't think I would deny them unless it was like a creepy person. I've had little kids ask before and they are usually surprised it's soft when it looks more course. It probably is annoying to get asked but learning about blacks and black culture is a good step in the right direction of understanding!

Tyler W: I have pretty fair/soft hair and I've had people ask to touch my hair plenty of times. It doesn't bother me. It's kind of nice, really. I've always taken it as a compliment. Black people have a pretty distinct/different texture to their hair. Afros, for example, feel nice to touch. Like sheep's wool. Same with buzz cuts where it feels neat to touch someone's really short hair. It's just nice. I guess I'm more of an open person with personal space/boundaries but I don't see how people asking to touch your hair marginalizes you as a race. Just seems silly. People are going to find shit to be offended about one way or another, I guess.

I J: I think it depends on the person, like I touch my friends hair no matter where they're from if we're on that level. generally if girls have long hair I'll touch the ends but if it's closer to their face I won't because uno personal space. For example I can compare these two girls ik well, both black with braids, and one loves it when I play with her hair the other isn't comfortable with it.

Daniela Hundley: I have pretty curly hair and it used to be curlier when I was little, I was fine with people touching my hair if they asked if I was friends with them but sometimes random classmates would like come up behind me and start playing with my hair without my permission and that was just like invasion of space. Tbh hair touching it all depends on the person and their comfort levels, with this question^^ I personally think it's rude for a stranger to ask to be in another persons personal space but like if you know the person and they are being polite enough to ask then you can't be mad at them... just say no, or yes.

Addison Campbell: I think of it as an honor when somebody touches my hair just because they like it. It makes me feel pretty :)

da.vvd: I loved the ending of this video, the girls who said yes

Alecsander: I always think it's funny when people ask to touch my hair or beard, and it did happen fairly often in Japan.

IncrediBelleJessi: Most of these women were so positive and confident ♥

steff: A friend of mine once had dreadlocks and went pretty much through the same lol. But she's been more annoyed by the never-ending question "How do you wash them?"

alisa: Although this is obviously much, much, *much* more common with black/African American people, I've definitely had people ask me this before (I'm East Asian). Actually, I haven't been asked that much, most of the time people just touch it without my permission which is really weird because I turn around and just find someone there and it always takes me by surprise.

Eli Lindsay: 2:13 I love that girls energy honestly

Ebony Bankston: I love the people who say yes I have extremely curly hair and so many people want to touch it just because its different and I think curly hair is also very pretty.

Lightshade393: I admit, l think this question in my mind a lot, particularly when faced with hair that is very different from mine. I have stick-straight hair that can't hold curl even when I sleep on curlers at night, so any type of thick, curly hair looks fascinating and beautiful to me. But I would never, EVER ask that question out loud, unless I knew the person extremely well. As the one woman put it succinctly, "I am not a pet." It just seems so disrespectful that people would simply get in another person's personal space and touch them.

Niamh Rogers: "Sure,my hair is fabulous " my favourite quote

mica1k: i literally used to ask people this question all the time in middle school. like i didn't do it to be rude at all, and tbh i am sooo jealous of people with such a rare and diverse hair texture plus, the dudes in my class let me twist their hair during lectures

Lauren Vuceta: I'm mixed and this is the complete story of my life, this one girl at my school thought I curled my hair every single day to get it the way it was... like really...

Angel Orange: Idk why is it ppl get offended for people not letting you touching something on your body (head in the case which is attached your own personal body.) You can be curious without touching people or asking to touch people. It’s not necessary. Control your impulses people and we’ll all be happy. This is for everyone no matter what race. Your body AND HAIR is your own and not everyone else’s. Just cuz you ask doesn’t mean you have rights to or that you just HAVE to. Keep your hands to yourself ppl.

Jessica: My hair is bone straight and pretty shiny and my whole life people have touched my hair. They usually just pet my head, and say "your hair is so soft". Rarely do people ask if they can touch it. it's never bothered me unless I've spent a long time styling it, then it's a bit frustrating cause my hair doesn't stay styled, it always falls back to straight, so as soon as it's touched it is ruined.  I think people are just intrigued by anything different or sometimes people try to touch hair as a way to flirt or show affection but they really should learn how to ask before touching.

Flippity floppity the schools shooter spotted me: I've always wanted to touch their hair just cause i wanna see how its different and how it works lol

Dayna P: So... I know it's crazy but as a black girl and natural I love when people ask to touch my hair. To me it feels good and it gives me pride

G: I love the different of opinions in this video and respect them all.

Professor Art: As a guy with 360 waves I never really cared if people touched my hair. As long as they feel it with the grain I'm honestly ok with it.

Toril Johansson: As a natural platinum blonde from Sweden in California alot of people wanted to touch my hair and I thought it was really cool . I've never felt so special before lol

ashdraws: A black girl in my class has really tight braids and this girl & me were asking questions about it (like how long it took and stuff - in admiration bc it looks awesome). The white girl asked if she could touch it and I was like 0.0 but the black girl was fine with it. I'd never ask though unless I was close friends with them, just in case.

Sandra Rose: I'm glad some of these ladies said yes.. because to me it's not that serious.. I feel like u have to have some insecurities about your hair to feel offended if someone wanted to touch it.. as a black woman, I LOVE my hair.. and I like to touch it too.. why would I deprive other people? BUT: I will say this though: there are a few hairstyles where u may not want people to touch it cause u might be afraid they'll mess it up.. but that's too much work.. I don't mess with those hairstyles..

Kaylee: A few years ago: "Hey, can i touch your hair?" "Ehm, sure? I guess" Now: "Can i touch your hair?" "No, why don't you ask other people to touch their hair instead of mine?" I don't get frustrated but to me it's pretty weird to ask people to touch their hair. I mean, i don't ask to touch your skin if it had another colour or something like that. "Is that your real hair?" Yes it is, i never get frustrated About that question, because yes i've had fake hair before, but i decided to go all natrual and let my hair the way it is. People are always curious, and i don't blame them.

bunmiii: Lol yea you can touch my hair, give me $5 though

oc2k13: As a black guy with hair, I got nothing to lose from getting my hair touched as long as you don't got dirty fingers, as for white people doing it, I get that it's out of curiousity so I don't get offended. I'm not that insecure to say no, unless too much contact can affect the style.

dude its kayla: I get it if it's a stranger. You don't need to have that sort of contact with someone you don't know. But if I ask my friend to touch her hair, I don't mean it in a rude way. I just wanna feel the texture because that's something I can't experience as a girl with naturally straight hair.

Jess S: I've had people yank my hair "to see if its real" come up to me, in my personal space and touch it as if its some sort of museum artifact. Idk how people see this as normal to get up in someones personal space without asking. I find it very uncomfortable

Eeyono: As a lady with long curly hair, women will often touch and play with my hair with or without asking. When I was in Korea, my students were obsessed with my hair because it was so different.

joey ziebart: I have had colorful hair for years and most people just will randomly start touching it as if it's a compliment. I can't imagine haven't texture like these ladies!

paloma diaz: When I was little EVERY girl in my class wanted to touch and play with my hair because it was so damn long I sort liked it because it was relaxing, now that I'm older I really don't like it because it's uncomfortable knowing I haven't washed it and someone wants to touch it hahahaha

Highheeled Fagin: I'll allow it if we're friends but it's weird if strangers ask and we're sober. These days I'll generally respond with "can I touch yours?" just to point out how weird the question feels, then engage in mutual hair touching...unless I just got my hair done: I didn't get a crick in my neck for five hours to let your fingers go exploring.

Catasabbi: I have extremely curly hair. I style it everyday and every time i even leave the house, And people ask me all the time if they can touch it, and I usually say no, not cause it’s offensive or whatever, it’s cause I take so long doing it so I get paranoid that they’re gonna mess it up lmao